50 ways to prevent feeling overwhelmed- taking back control and self-care

  1. Make a weekly “to-do” list.
  2. Mind-map all the little things playing on your mind- no matter how seemingly insignificant.
  3. Have a weekly pamper session- tan, nails, hair etc.
  4. Take a hot bath.
  5. Remind yourself of your importance.
  6. Lay in the sunshine.
  7. Make your bed.
  8. Choose a new book to read.
  9. Put on fresh comfortable clothing.
  10. Re-read one of your favourite books.
  11. Allow yourself to laugh.
  12. Choose tomorrows outfit before bed.
  13. Try a new walk.
  14. Turn your phone off for a whole day.
  15. Watch an all-time favourite movie.
  16. Ask someone for advice or help.
  17. Book a short break away.
  18. Spend time with animals.
  19. Have a good cry.
  20. Say no when you start feeling overwhelmed.
  21. Go to the seaside.
  22. Throw out, or give to charity, your old clothes.
  23. Sing like nobody else can hear you.
  24. Get up early- make the most of every day.
  25. Make spontaneous plans.
  26. Listen to peaceful music.
  27. Take multi-vitamins.
  28. Write down your goals and stick them somewhere you see them every day.
  29. Do something creative- crafts, knit, sew etc.
  30. Let it go.
  31. Treat yourself, have a cake or a pizza every now and then.
  32. Get an early night.
  33. Make a list of all the things you are thankful for.
  34. Healthy body, healthy mind.
  35. Unplug from social media.
  36. Take a nap.
  37. Hug someone for longer than 10 seconds- it’s proven to relieve stress.
  38. Surround yourself with people that make you happy.
  39. Declutter your home/ room.
  40. Write your feelings down in a journal.
  41. Step out of your comfort zone- cook a new recipe.
  42. Sit in the garden or in the park for an hour and watch the world go by.
  43. Eat a healthy diet.
  44. Have a pyjama day.
  45. Do some baking.
  46. Listen to your favourite song.
  47. Wear your favourite perfume.
  48. Get a haircut.
  49. Go outside, lie on your back and watch the sky.
  50. Call someone you love.

Work, work, work, work, work

HAVING A JOB AT UNIVERSITY

  1. Each situation is different:
  • Getting a job works differently for everyone, but I found that having a permanent University job wasn’t for me. During my first year of University, I felt quite home sick, and the idea of having contracted hours during term, that could potentially prevent me from coming home as often, put me off. I also didn’t ‘need’ the job to survive at University, so I decided to focus on getting used to University, before getting a job.
  1. People that do have Jobs Term-Time:
  • Many of my friends had term-time jobs and absolutely loved it. Some situations rely on having a job to finance, some people need the extra little bit to make finances easier and others just like the structure of work and the extra money goes a long way.
  1. University Blogger:
  • Though I didn’t have a job during my first year, I did become a University of Warwick Blogger, which I shall be carrying on into my final year also. This meant I had to blog twice a month on the University Blogger Page, and I would receive £25.00 at the end of the month. This does not sound much, but it really helped me. Plus it looks good on a CV and is relevant to my future career.
  1. Having a Job out of University Terms:
  • This is something I highly recommend. During University, people go on so many awesome trips, but this requires £££.
  • Temporary Work: you can pick up seasonal work at Christmas, Easter and Summer, relatively easy. Places such as retail are often looking for temporary workers. Plus, once you’ve worked for them once, and hopefully made a good impression, they often ask for you back next time you’re between University terms.
  • When you can’t find a retail job: this happened to me last year, where I couldn’t find a job and I started to panic. But don’t.
  • Total Jobs: I used this to get the newest updates on jobs. A few examples of what pops up here are: hairdresser assistant, nursery assistant, administration based jobs, receptionists- different from retail, but none the less well paying and frequent work!
  1. Bonuses of having a Job:
  • The obvious thing is MONEY.
  • But putting that aside, employers love CV’s with jobs on, whether that during University or out of term, or even just summer. It shows commitment, work ethic, organisation and the capability of juggling a busy schedule.
  1. Suggestions: there are so many jobs students can apply for during University:
  • On campus: restaurants, coffee shops, admin, cleaning and tour guides.
  • At Warwick University we have the Welcome to Warwick Scheme, these are the people that wear bright yellow tops, carry out the tours, answer prospective student questions and show you what the University is all about. They work about 3 times a year and get paid over £10 an hour.

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  • Department representative: there are so many opportunities within the departments. You can be a researcher, an assistant, a representative and a blogger.
  • Blogging: I am not sure whether Blogging is more specific to Warwick University, but it is such a good opportunity. There are places such as Campus Society that offer platforms for students to share their blogs. Though you don’t get paid, there are excellent rewards offered, such as vouchers. If you want to give blogging a go, Campus is an excellent place to start.

 

A Little Life Update

Hi everyone!

I feel as though I haven’t posted anything on here for ages, but the last two weeks have been the hardest of my entire University experience.With a History Degree, it’s kind of expected to feel as though the deadlines are never ending- 50% of the course is based on coursework. But crikey, the last fortnight has been slightly hellish/ very hellish.

But today I submitted my first Essay that counts towards my degree- a whopping 4,500 words of complete desperation. Who cares if five minutes before the electronic deadline I realised the referencing was wrong? Pfft, not me! (Slight lie, this was only after crying and realising there was nothing I could do about it.)

Seriously though, I am in a weird limbo at the moment, having gone from mega stress to kind of nothing to do. So I have filled my time with fake tan, nail polish and YouTube- oh and street food and coffee!

I always find that around stressful parts of term, life in general likes to give me a hard time too.

  1. Formative Essay Feedback- one of my lecturers gave me my essay feedback in German. I don’t know much German. The best I can do is ask to take my blazor off, or tell someone I own a dog.
  2. No Hairbrush– this is kind of pathetic, but proves I am pretty lucky to have a boyfriend like Jack. So, just to set the scene, it’s 2 am, I’m making some last minute touches to my essay aka writing a conclusion. And I had just got out of the shower. I look in my overnight bag and I have no hair brush. Naturally, this was the end of the world. Jack then pulled out this tiny little comb and starts brushing my hair while I write the conclusion- it took roughly 20 minutes to get my hair knot free.
  3. Sitting on ink in my favourite coat– need I say more?

However, it is not all doom and gloom- as shown by the pictures of Leamington Spa that I took last weekend, while taking a walk with Jack. It was actually a really nice day, we had cake and tea, and watched the geese and mallards in the pond. While sat on a little bench. I promise it was more exciting than that sounds!

It was kind of fun watching the Mallards trying to woo the lady Mallards- those ducks get sassy.

I am officially done for Term 2 of my 2nd year at Warwick University and I am so, so happy to be going home for Easter in just 2 days.

 

 

 

University of Warwick- My Insurance Choice

When I was originally looking at Universities I had no idea where I wanted to go. So I decided to make a list of the things I ‘needed’ out of a University and a list of the things I ‘wanted’.

Location.

I started this process by looking at a map. I am going to be honest, my Geography skills are truly appalling- from this I decided how far away from home I was willing to go. As a complete home bird, I decided that three hours was the maximum for me, which automatically ruled out a fair amount of Universities. University was rather daunting to me and the idea of being able to get on a train and be home within the day was greatly appealing. Of course, this is a personal preference and it’s most important that wherever you choose to go, no matter how far, you’re comfortable.

Transport.

This leads smoothly onto the next thing on my list- transport. Having visited King College London, I realised that the hustle and bustle of London and the constant use of transport to get to and from lectures and seminars, was not for me. I loved the idea of the full on, hectic and movie-like lifestyle of London, but I actually found it rather overwhelming. This was where I started to realise that I quite liked the ‘bubble’ campuses, where everything was close together. Of course, I was open to using trains, buses and even tubes, but I didn’t feel that London was for me. Certainly, as a second year, checking out transport is crucial- living in Leamington Spa this year means that using a bus is part of my normal every day routine. With this, there are at least two big train stations to get home quickly. Transport is definitely worth considering when choosing a University. At this point I had narrowed down my search to Royal Holloway, Oxford Brookes, Exeter, Southampton and Warwick.

Employment Opportunities and League Tables.

Certainly, these are not to be forgotten. Warwick is currently 8th in the country for the Complete University Guide of 2017. Even when considering where you would like to study your degree, it’s a good idea to consider the opportunity that specific University can give you. Not only does Warwick have great Graduate Employment, but also has a number of events which welcome employers into the University. Also, unlike some other Universities, Warwick is in a great location for employment- with easy routes to Birmingham, London or even more locally- Coventry and Leamington.

Can I see myself here?

Having lived in Southampton all my life, it seemed silly not to check out Southampton University. There are so many benefits with going to a local establishment, rent can be cheaper, less student loans and of course transport is easier when you don’t live too far away. However, there are also disadvantages- you don’t automatically form the relationships with your flat mates (of course you can with those on your course) and it’s not as easy to go ‘out’. Whether that’s clubbing, going to the pub, a restaurant or even chatting with a friend to the early hours of the morning. So I would highly recommend considering these when choosing your University. I personally was not put off by these disadvantages, in fact the University itself just didn’t feel right. My parents were certainly pretty keen for me to fall in love with Southampton University- we did two open days. But everything was very familiar and not overly exciting as a result. I just couldn’t see myself there.

I was so nervous about University and leaving home, but visiting the University of Exeter made me love the idea. They were so enthusiastic, everyone was so friendly and the whole campus was green. Just so pretty, with lovely big trees, huge buildings and beautiful accommodation. Plus it was within my three hour radius. I fell in love with Exeter and I could see myself there.

First Impressions of Warwick

Despite absolutely loving Exeter, Warwick was my second choice because I felt I could see myself here too. Though it wasn’t as green, Warwick was, and is, the perfect ‘bubble’ campus. I loved the mixture of buildings, the coffee shops and restaurants on campus and the open spaces to socialise- people studying at Warwick seemed really happy.

Why am I at Warwick now?

Exeter offered me: A*, A*, B for my History degree, and I was on track to achieve this. However, when it came to exam results, I didn’t reach them, instead I got A, A, B and an A* in my Extended Project. Though Exeter offered me a History of Renaissance Course, I rejected the offer as I had been offered a place at Warwick. There was absolutely no sense of disappointment as, over the summer, I had had a lot of time to think, and was actually starting to question my choice. Warwick was higher in the league tables than Exeter, had better student satisfaction and much higher levels of Graduate Employment.

I have a genuine belief that things happen for a reason, I am unbelievably happy at Warwick, I love the course, the campus and the surrounding area. I consider myself super lucky to be here.

25 Facts About Me!

I’ve spoken quite a bit about my lifestyle, but not so much about me as a person, so today I’m going to share with you 25 things you probably don’t know about me!

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  1. I’m scared of horses- when I was 7 I was at a party and the supervisor let go of the reins and the horse ran, with me on it. We were in the New Forest and it was terrifying.
  2. Crossing fingers, or toes, makes my stomach flip.
  3. When I was 3 I fell into a tank full of crabs at a Nursery Trip to the Aquarium.
  4. I have an overly sensitive nose and have an obsession with candles, especially cinnamon and apple flavour.
  5. I am horrendous when it comes to spicy food- my nose runs,  I sweat and sometimes my eyes run too.
  6. I suck at long distance running. But was always good at sprinting and high jump at school.
  7. I’m hangry 99% of the time.
  8. I have been attacked by dogs on 3 separate occasions and am a little apprehensive around dogs I haven’t met. However, big, fluffy dogs are my favourite. Beside my little Border Terrier Jim, he’s pretty damn awesome.
  9. I am obsessed with Grey’s Anatomy.
  10. I used to do singing lessons from age 11 to 14. I love to sing, but mostly in private.
  11. The biggest thing I miss (apart from my family of course!) when I’m away from home is the Sea- it’s just my happy place.
  12. I met my boyfriend, Jack, on a bus, first year of college, aged 16. Now we’re at University together!
  13. When I was 5 a boy at my school pushed me into a tank of sting rays- another School Trip.
  14. I hate spiders.
  15. When I was 12 I sold cup cakes at my Dad’s offices and that was my first sort of job.
  16. I learned the clarinet from age 8 to 13.
  17. I am not a big clubber- I enjoy drinking and socialising, but don’t enjoy the being drunk aspect. Or the cramped spaces. I prefer coffee shops and cake.
  18. Anything Avocado I adore.
  19. I have a fair size list of allergies: food colourings, dairy, a large amount of fruit, in particular peaches. Peaches and I do NOT get along #anaphylaxis
  20. I have a ridiculous amount of blond moments.
  21. Sea food is my favourite- especially mussels.
  22. I like/attempt to play Fifa with Jack, and I’m getting pretty damn good at it- I think!
  23. I hate, hate, hate confrontation. I just cry.
  24. I drink a ridiculous amount of tea each day.
  25. I am the worst person to go clothes shopping with. I am not remotely claustrophobic at any other time, but if I get caught in a top in a changing room its freak-out time.

I hope you enjoyed learning that little bit more about me.

Thank you for reading! Happy Monday!

Bee

xoxox

My Article Got Published in a Magazine!

About a month ago, I entered a competition to have my work published in a Warwick University Law Magazine: Obiter Dicta, in their lifestyle section: ‘Chill Zone’. It has now been published in the Winter Edition and I will have more opportunities to publish my work. I am pretty excited! Here is my work 🙂

University Realities – What you weren’t told about before coming to Warwick

University life isn’t always what we expect it to be, and some things can only be learned by experiencing them first-hand. Here a few Warwick uni experiences to be warned about for unsuspecting freshers and tips to help you make the most of your time in the Bubble.

‘Adult-ing isn’t easy’

One of my favourite quotes is that being at ‘University is like losing your Mum in a supermarket for three years’- and this is so true. It’s undeniable that University is one of the biggest learning curves. Before I started at Warwick, I knew nothing about bills, washing machines or even how expensive it is to buy fruit. But it’s certainly a giggle figuring these things out- once you’ve put a red sock in the white wash, you probably won’t do it again. But hey, pink is the new white. Likewise, with the buses you only put a ten pound note into the money-sucker once before realising they don’t give change.

‘Who took my milk?’

I sometimes wonder what it would be like to set up hidden cameras in University kitchens, I really do think it would be like Big Brother. Living with a group of people, from a range of backgrounds, with a variety of personalities, can be unbelievably fun, but equally challenging. Being a student is very much like being a detective- who took my milk? Who left the kitchen unlocked? Who’s that sleeping on our kitchen table?

‘I like going home and picking up a tea towel, knowing I won’t catch a disease’

One of my top tips to any Fresher is to befriend the cleaner. Nagging your flat to keep the kitchen tidy, in fear of a fine, is the bane of any Fresher’s life. Last year I had a friend over to visit, had just cooked a typical University meal (probably potato waffles) and was starting the washing up. After a few weeks at University you adapt to the environment, for example you never lean on a kitchen surface, unless you, personally, have cleaned it. Less than 5 minutes prior. My friend, with good intentions of course, picked up a random tea towel from the side and started drying my plates. I don’t like to think what was being smeared over my undeserving tableware. Another University hack is never to venture out your room without some form of shoe or slipper- it’s not worth the risk.

‘Student Union + Sticky Floors = Trainers’

In my first year I went shopping for the perfect Freshers outfits and the best shoes. By term two, I was wearing trainers to go clubbing. The Copper Rooms are perfect for singing to cheesy music, being dragged into mosh pits, making friends in toilets and ultimately getting your footwear covered in some sort of sticky substance that eternally swamps the floor. In a way, it’s a beautiful thing- no need to worry about blisters from 5 inch heels, people jumping on your feet is blooming irritating, but not excruciating, plus there is no need to take your shoes off on the walk home.

‘University Food Favourites’

Cooking for one is pretty limiting and, having come to University with several Cook Books I hoped to use, it is quite easy to fall into eating unhealthy and convenient foods. During my first year, I found a few ways to make maintaining a healthy lifestyle easier. One thing that surprised me was the expense of fruit and vegetables, which is an immediate deterrent to eating healthier- but persevere, there are ways around this!

Firstly, I found that cooking a decent meal for one is difficult and time consuming when you have deadlines and general university pressures. I found that making food in bulk is a good idea, which means you need loads of Tupperware. Examples of foods to make in bulk include; spaghetti, chilli con carne and breakfast muffins. Breakfast muffins are a particular favourite of mine, once they have all cooled out of the oven, put them into plastic bags individually and put them in the freezer. Then, when you are rushing to get out the door, put one in the microwave for a minute and eat it on the go. Top tip- careful, berries can explode if they’re microwaved for too long!

Secondly, after a long day, I just want to eat. I’m not fussed with faffing around. So I love the weight watchers meals, they take a maximum of 8 minutes in the microwave and are truly delicious. There are lots of variations such as; Thai green curry, sweet and sour with rice, risotto, carbonara, tikka masala and salmon with potato wedges.

I have never been a breakfast-lover, and at University, there is so much temptation to skip the meal, but it really isn’t worth the embarrassment of a tummy rumble in a lecture theatre. So, I make sure I buy the pots of fruit from the Supermarket, often there is an offer and they are so convenient to make porridge or Weetabix that bit more exciting. Likewise, I had never tried avocado either. Now, I would have half an avocado on toast for breakfast every day if I could. I even have them as a snack (they’re even better with Nandos piri-piri salt on top). It is just about what is best for you and your diet.

Finally, I absolutely love the phone app Life Sum: I never particularly liked calorie counting but nothing was working and it is hard to keep up a diet when you’re at University and on a budget. With this, I try to avoid lactose and gluten, which makes the diets even more difficult to follow. So LifeSum really does make me feel more in control of my diet, and is really flexible with the foods I can and can’t eat- I eat what suits me, unlike strict diets that give you recipes for each day. I don’t feel like I am constantly thinking about what I am eating, but I feel like I have a plan that is sustainable.

24 Hour Update

The Last 24 Hours of my Life:

  • Never been to Aldi before, but did my shop there- £19 for a week shop! (They don’t do lacto-free anything though, which was a bummer).
  • Had salmon pasta for tea last night.
  • Watched Poldark with Hannah last night, on her bed while doing my nails.
  • Did a L’Oreal face mask, also with Hannah.
  • Made myself a pack lunch- salmon and cream cheese on crackers, pineapple cubes, chocolate orange rice crispy bar (OMG) and pom bears.
  • Couldn’t find a car parking space this morning- subsequently late for the first lecture, which is always awkward.

Observations:

  1. Lecturers don’t care if there aren’t parking spaces.

Top Tip I never realised people didn’t know:

For smudged nails:

  1. Put your nail on your tongue, so your finger essentially upside down and lick the nail in a sideways motion, gently.
  2. Do this for about 30 seconds or until the nail polish is back to its original position.
  3. Yes, it does taste gross. But you don’t have to start again!