20 Life Lessons, learnt in 20 years.

  1. Money does not equal happiness.
  2. Saying no is OK.
  3. Empowered women, empower other women.
  4. Stand up for what you believe in- always.
  5. Don’t compare your life to others.
  6. Surround yourself with those that love you and make you feel worthy.
  7. Giving will make you happier.
  8. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
  9. Nobody is in charge of your happiness but you.
  10. Paying someone a compliment can make their day.
  11. Avoid negative people.
  12. Be honest.
  13. Admit to your mistakes- don’t let them define you.
  14. Family comes first.
  15. People come and go, enjoy every second.
  16. Be yourself- you’re one of a kind.
  17. The grass is always greener on the other side.
  18. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
  19. Life’s greatest lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.
  20. Having dark days simply makes the bright days brighter.

How I manage stress.

No matter which degree you do, there is always going to be some sort of deadline and ultimately pressure! Likewise, there is shed loads of pressure in school, college and everyday life, so I am going to show you how I manage my work load.

Side Note: I am a real worrier, I would worry about worrying if I could. Everyone deals with pressure differently, I personally go from being OK and feeling in control of my life one day, to feeling like I am drowning in work and there is nothing I can do about it. So throughout the last few years, I’ve picked up ways to avoid the intense stress.

Organisation

  • Clear Desk: even if it’s just before bed you do a quick sweep of the desk, organise paperwork, put things in their place and set up so that you can start fresh tomorrow.
  • Desk Organisers: this just makes your life easier: pots, boxes, files etc.
  • Lists: revision timetables were never really my thing, but having a list of priorities always keeps me on track.

Find a place you are comfortable working.

  • Having lived in Halls of Residence, it’s fair to say you don’t get peace and quiet all the time. I personally found that it was easier to walk to a study space and do my work there. Nobody cares if you’re in your pyjamas or even bring your slippers! Universities are usually pretty good at providing lots of study areas for Students- make the most of them.
  • If you don’t have this option (like me now that I am off of campus) then make sure you use your time wisely. It’s common knowledge University students don’t get up early, so I make the most of this, and start my work at 7am, when the house is quietest. Yes, it’s early, but if you smash an essay, it’s so worth it.

Set up Camp.

  • Whenever you are ready to work, you do it. If you get a sudden urge to write, seize the moment. Sometimes I’m just not tired and for some random reason feel buzzed- I start writing or planning. It doesn’t matter when you complete tasks as long and you get enough sleep.
  • When I know I am going to be sat at my desk for a long period of time, I make sure I am ready for it.
  • First stop- Coffee. I allow myself one every 30 to 40 minutes- that’s my revision break.
  • A snack, in case I get the munchies.
  • My paperwork and notes neatly stacked around me.
  • Be comfortable, have a shower, feel clean and fresh and put some pyjamas on.

Have realistic targets.

  • I make sure I aim to achieve something and work until I do- but be realistic.

Do things for yourself.

  • Facemasks: I personally love the L’Oreal clay masks at the moment.
  • Paint your nails.
  • Retail therapy.
  • A coffee with friends- particularly friends who are equally stressed, then you off load and feel much better.
  • Eat GOOD food. From experience pot noodles are not the best for brain power, cook something, take half an hour to make a pasta dish, or put some chicken goujons in the oven.

Email people who can help you.

  • Whether that’s mentors, tutors, teachers, bosses- even just to clarify something minor, if it means you feel good about what you’re writing its worth it.

Sleep.

  • Just means you don’t zombie your way through the essay.

Is it just me?

The last 24 hours:

  • Jack and I watched ‘Saving Private Ryan’ in his University Halls.
  • We had pre-drinks with his flat and played games: ring of fire, never-have-I-ever and ‘f**k the dealer’.
  • Went to Freshers Festival.
  • Ordered Dominoes from the Student Union at 3am.
  • Ate Dominoes and got to bed at 4 ish.
  • Woke up at midday and had chicken wings for breakfast.
  • Watched Bridget Jones, though Jack was slightly forced into it (he loved it!)
  • Walked to Warwick Fusion Bar and had sweet and sour chicken balls, Jack had chilli beef and noodles.
  • Walked to the gym and signed up.
  • Walked back to Jacks accommodation and packed our bags.
  • Caught a bus at 6.10pm to Leamington Spa.
  • Popped into McColls (the local shop) for pizza for tea and ran home in the rain.
  • Watched the apprentice.

Observations:

  1. I need a waterproof coat.
  2. Our oven still doesn’t work.
  3. Sometimes Fusion is stingy with the amount of chicken balls they give you.
  4. I am basically Bridget Jones.
  5. Mosh pits in clubs are horrible, horrible things.

Lesson Learnt:

  • I should stop wearing my hair down in clubs. I don’t know if this is just me, but I’m sort of armpit height and when people dance, my hair get’s stuck under their arms and it’s genuinely terrifying.
  • Oh and wearing trainers to the Festival was definitely a good shout.