Banishing Easter Guilt

Banishing Easter Guilt

Happy Easter and Happy start of April!

This blog post is all about Easter Guilt.

Over the last week I have seen so many articles focussing on how bad Easter eggs are for you. Ranging from calories to how many burpees you would need to do to burn them off… for real?! Though I am not surprised, it is pretty sad to think that Easter (and the opportunity to eat Easter Eggs) comes round once a year, and we are being told not to enjoy it!? These sort of articles just make people feel bad. Unnecessarily. Because sometimes you need a treat. There are so many of us worrying about our health anyway, these articles are just damaging, not only to our idea of a healthy balanced diet, but to self confidence too. So here are my thoughts on eating Easter Eggs at Easter time!

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Having a healthy balanced diet: I treat myself. Otherwise, quite frankly, I’d go loopy. I have tried diets- and they just make me miserable. A healthy balanced diet means I eat good 80% of the time. In the other 20% I make room for Easter Eggs, the odd glass of wine and a meal out if I choose. Depriving yourself is really bad, deprivation simply leads to binging, which leads to unhappiness. AKA, a vicious cycle, and an unhappy you. I do not claim to be a nutritionist, but if you check any out, they are forever disproving myths surrounding diets. Often they prove that a healthy, balanced diet is the way forward. So as I’m sat here, hell yeah I’m eating an Easter Egg!!

But what about my weight? I have never, ever, stepped off of the scales feeling anything but inadequate. For me standing on the scales is the worst possible thing I could do for my mental health. I could be on a real health kick, for weeks- but the minute I step on those scales, I can lose it all. I automatically go from feeling positive about myself and expecting to see a physical difference, to thinking ‘pass me a chocolate bar, this healthy eating has done sod all for me’. Every time I do the same thing. I get upset, I compare myself to others, I wear baggy clothes for a few days (and binge) and then I give myself a pep talk. Because they really are only numbers. They don’t define me, nor my worth, or my health. I have always been heavier than I expect. But I end up assessing my life in general. Do I eat healthily 80% of the time? Yes. Am I active on a daily basis? Yes. Am I in a positive mindset the majority of the time? Yes. I know I am healthy.

One day will not make me gain weight: Have you ever gone to the gym and lost weight after a day? Nope. So this one day of eating an Easter Egg will not make you gain weight. Think of this as a day off. Granted, one day at the gym gets you one step closer to where you want to be, but these moments of indulgence will not have an impact on the long run. Especially not when mixed with a health diet the majority of the time. If you feel bad, go to the gym an extra time this week or squeeze in an extra 15 minutes work out.

Easter Egg Guilt: We live in a world where people are counting calories left, right and centre, there are apps for it, books for it and DVD’s for it. The celebratory seasons are the worst for it, whether it’s Christmas or Easter (the two biggest seasons of enjoyment), we have calorie counts rammed down our throats. When the reality is: I love skittles and wine. Sometimes I don’t ‘deserve’ them, but quite frankly the idea of ‘working for’ these indulgences is ludicrous. It’s two days a year. Real life has to come first sometimes. I am certainly not prepared to start turning down pudding at the Easter roast dinner, or ask everyone not to bother getting me an Easter Egg this year. Life is for enjoying!

What I am trying to say is, future you isn’t going to think ‘I’m really glad I didn’t eat those Pringles on the 28th February’, it’s all about moderation. If you’re working towards a goal, whether that’s a number, a shape or simply a healthier lifestyle- patience is key. Results don’t happen over night. So allow yourself an Easter treat (or multiple), maybe it will give you that extra reason to stay good for the rest of the week, or work that little bit harder in the gym. In my case, I feel like it simply gives me a boost, my enjoyment this weekend will allow me to have a healthier mindset throughout the rest of the week.

We are entitled to enjoy our food. Life is for living and enjoying. Look after your body and treat it sometimes.

Bee xoxo

The Realities of Working Out

The Realities of Working Out

I am what I like to call: Fit(ish).

Fit(ish): semi-fit and a little bit podgy. Someone that likes the idea of being fit, but likes food too much.

I strive to be healthy. To me, this means two things. To be physically fitand active, and eat a healthy balanced diet. And mentally fit, whereby (to avoid mental breakdowns, and maintain sanity) I eat cake when and if I want it. I think it’s a pretty healthy diet. I would never want to resent being ‘healthy’ if it meant I couldn’t eat birthday cake, or have a takeaway every now and then. I’m a firm believer in treatin’ yo self. 

But that’s enough natter, here are some of the realities I have found with working out!

CARDIO:

Getting bored after 5 minutes of any form of cardio. I have always hated running. I simply don’t enjoy it. But I do try. (I’m far better at running out of money, if I’m honest)will.gif

Running next to someone and it feeling like a race. They up the speed, so do I. Bring it. run.gif

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When you take your headphones out and realise you were making panting/grunting noiseswhile you did cardio.sponge.gif

When people look at you while you do cardio.melissa

When you up the speed too much and your heart skips a beat, because you can’t keep up.gym.gif

Me doing cardio: ’20 minutes left. That’s two lots of 10.  It’s only 4 lots of 5 minutes’(then I congratulate myself on the 30 seconds wasted on that mental maths session)wil.gif

I like to think, when people see me jogging outside, they think ‘wow an athlete’, but in reality it’s ‘aw, good for her’.

Quite frankly, the best bit about running is the end.

I’ve honestly come to the conclusion that running is wrong. I agree with Miranda Hart,unless it’s running professionally, or as a child- it’s not OK.

SWIMMING: 

Is this just me? As a kid, at swimming lessons, I would convince myself there was a shark in the pool– so I would swim faster. Maybe I should imagine clowns on the treadmill behind me.shark.gif

MOTTO’S I THINK IN THE GYM/LIFE:

‘Sweat is just my fat crying’.

‘I may look like a potato now, but one day I’ll turn into fries and you’ll all want me then.’

‘I work out because I know I would have been the first to die in the Hunger Games.’

‘I wear all black in the gym, like a funeral for my fat.’

REGRETS: 

When your ‘cheat meal’ turns into a cheat week.shame.gif

Stepping on the scales and seeing no change after weeks of exercise: ‘off to Krispy Kreme I go’.donunt.gif

Leaving the gym feeling great, waking up the next morning feeling like your legs are hungover.
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FIBS:

Aim:to be the weight I told the app I was.

‘Drink more water’ they said, ‘it will be good for you’ they said. I’m weeing ALL THE TIME.

(Last time I did that 2 litre a day thing, my Mum sent me to the Doctors thinking I had diabetes.)

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Embracing your summer body like at least my flipflops still fit!fat b 2.gif

So there it is, a page full of GIF’s, personal experiences and life contemplations, from a Fit(ish) individual with some serious love for cake. 

Coffee Architects Brunch Date

Coffee Architects Brunch Date

Hello everybody!

This morning I brunched with my friend Hannah in a really sweet place called ‘Coffee Architects’ in Leamington Spa. I took some pretty pictures and thought I’d share them with you!

It’s a really little coffee shop and a bit of a hidden gem in Leamington. It’s just off of the Leamington Parade and has about 6 tables in the main coffee shop. Hannah and I got there at about 9.30 and there was already a queue outside the door. This actually turned out for the best, as we were then sat out in the garden, under a canopy, with heaters, blankets and hot water bottles! It’s so pretty, with bunting, little plants and fairy lights. I was in Instagram heaven!

I ordered a tea and some French toast for breakfast and it was amazing (and huge!).

Here are a few of the photos that I took!

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Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend!

Bee xoxox

Dot To Dot- Wish List

Dot To Dot- Wish List

I am loving all things dots at the moment and if I had more money I would certainly be wearing more of them! So today, I put together a Wish List of dot inspired clothing. I feel like Cruella Deville (minus all things animal cruelty!).

These are all products I would wear. So I’ve picked out things that would suit my body type. I am a HUGE promoter of dressing to suit your figure and to make you comfortable. And quite frankly, not all the ‘on trend’ styles suit me. So being brutally honest: I am 5 ft 3, I have big boobs and chunky thighs. So here is what I have learnt:

  1. Never underestimate the importance of feeling good in your clothes. You wear it with confidence and you will own it.
  2. You got big thighs? Emphasise your waist- oh and floaty trousers are your new best friend. 
  3. Fact: People pay mega bucks for boobs. Though I am the first to complain about their inconvenience, I know they ain’t going nowhere, so why not dress to suit! This, for me, means avoiding baggy tops and wearing comfy, supportive bras (even if they are a little granny-like or you have to pay a little extra!).
  4. Would you talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself (in terms of body image)? No? Then stop. Be nice to yourself!

I hope you enjoy!

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Mae Woven Pleated Polka Dot Culottes- £20, Boohoo.

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Bethany Polka Dot Wrap Front Jumpsuit- £25, Boohoo.

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Boutique Indira Polka Dot Tulle Full Midi Skirt- £20, Boohoo.

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Polka Dot Wrap Self Tie Waist Frill Cami Dress- £12, Shein.

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ASOS Bardot Long Sleeve Mini Skater Dress in Polka Dot- £28, ASOS.

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Missguided Polka Dot Jumpsuit- £35, Missguided.

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Mango Dot and Floral Midi Skirt- £16, and Floral Tie Crop-Top- £11.50, Mango

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New Look Polka Dot Wide Leg Trousers-£11, New Look

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Club L Polka Dot Wrap Dress With Flute Sleeve- £25, Club L/ASOS

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Black Polka Dot Gathered Sleeve Blazer Set- £35, Missguided

Is it just me that dreams of the day I can see something I like and just click ‘buy now’ without a second thought?

 

Time Management and Positive Mindset Tips

Time Management and Positive Mindset Tips

‘I am not an early bird or a night owl. I am some form of permanently exhausted pigeon’

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Being one step ahead is undeniably a wonderful feeling, but at what cost? I have learnt that at University, it is just as important to be OK, happy and on track. I used to put a lot of effort into being prepared for the week before it had even started, but sometimes you have to admit, being ahead of the game is hard work, and actually not necessary. So here are a few ways that I manage my time and maintain a healthy mindset when going into each new week.

How do you manage your time?

‘time is non-refundable. use it with intention.’

Time management is so central to any degree and maintaining a healthy mindset. I love the phrase ‘work smarter, not harder’ and it’s something I really try to live by. Here are a few ways I manage my time to work smarter.

  • Complete my most important tasks first– if it has to be done, it’s top of the list.
  • Don’t over-commit– I take on enough. Why give yourself an unrealistic target? It’s not worth having mountains of things to do, but never finishing them to a standard you are proud of.
  • Have a good night sleep- boring but true. 7 to 8 hours is best to be productive the next day.
  • Work at your optimum time– I find I work best in the afternoon and when I get the motivation, I grasp it with both hands! Some people work best in the morning. Find out what works for you and plan your time accordingly.
  • Don’t procrastinate– as the Queen of Procrastination I can say this is a tough one. So I usually put my phone far away from my bed. Or even on a high up shelf, which sounds ridiculous, but my lazy butt won’t be able to justify reaching up to get it off of the shelf when I know I should be doing something else.
  • Give your tasks a time limit– it’s tough but more time efficient. For example, I can have hundreds of pages to read for pre-reading, but if I have a lot of other tasks needing to be completed, then I will allocate myself 2 hours
  • Leave a buffer time between tasks– I usually add 30% of the time I expected the task to take. This way if you run over, it’s OK and you have factored it in.
  • Think of each task as an individual one- looking at a long list of ‘to-do’s’ is enough to stress anyone out. So plan what you need to do to complete your tasks and focus on only one at a time. I even get rid of all my other tabs, so I can fully focus on the task at hand.
  • Exercise and eat healthily- I am a lover of chocolate and an advocate of treating yourself when the going gets tough. But, eating a healthy, balanced diet is key. Plus the gym is a great outlet.
  • Make weekends actual breaks– granted we all have work that runs into the weekend, but take some time off for yourself.
  • Create an organised system that works for you– I like to print of a calendar at the beginning of term and fill in all my deadlines and social events I would like to attend. Seeing it in this format makes everything look a lot less daunting.

‘the key is not to prioritise what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities’

How do you maintain your mental health?

Maintaining a healthy can be hard, especially when you have deadlines coming out your ears- so here are a few way’s that I rationalise my ‘to-do’s’ and maintain a healthy mindset.

  • Keep perspective- everyone has those days where things just go wrong. But tomorrow is a new day. A new start.
  • I write a list or a mindmap of everything on my mind, right before bed. It’s quite therapeutic, I pour out all my worries, concerns and to-do’s and go to bed with the knowledge I’ll pick up where I left off in the morning. You can even have a chuckle with yourself when you think ‘future me can deal with that’.
  • Value yourself- a friend said to me that you should be your own best friend. Like the phrase ‘treat others the way you would like to be treated’ but in reverse. Treat yourself the way you treat others. Value yourself and avoid self-criticism. Make time for hobbies and the things you enjoy the most.
  • Do not compare yourself to others– you’re doing your best and that’s all that matters.
  • Take care of your body- eat a healthy diet, treat yourself occasionally, drink lots of water and avoid the consumption of things that aren’t going to benefit your body, such as cigarettes.
  • Find something that makes you happy. For me it’s chocolate. Some may say comfort eating is bad, but when you’ve got deadlines and need a boost, or even have had a bad day… treat yo self.
  • Surround yourself with good people- positive vibes are so important to maintaining a healthy mindset. People generally feel better with a bigger support network.
  • Control the controllables. Change what you can and don’t worry about the rest.

    ‘surround yourself with people who see your value and remind you of it’

BALTIC HOLIDAY: COPENHAGEN, CRUISE SHIP AND WARNEMUNDE, DAY 2 & 3

BALTIC HOLIDAY: COPENHAGEN, CRUISE SHIP AND WARNEMUNDE, DAY 2 & 3

Hello everybody!

This is the second blog regarding my recent holiday on a cruise ship around the Baltics.

After watching Batman and having an early-ish night, we got up pretty early, had a standard continental breakfast at the hotel and boarded the ship by midday. It was pretty manic getting on, but we spent the first few hours exploring, playing mini golf… and eating food!! Pretty much the ideal day. That night we ate dinner and set sail. One thing that really did surprise me, however stupid it may sound, was how HUGE the ship was. No photos give it justice and I forever wonder how it floats. I’m pretty crap at science, but I just don’t get it. It’s MASSIVE.

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Warnemunde was our first stop and was like a beautiful little German Balamory.  When we first hopped off of the cruise ship it looked like a standard port, quite similar to the ones in the UK. But a five minute walk into the little town and it was beautiful. There were different colour boats on the river, a market place, colourful houses and restaurants, traditional German folk music playing and the sun was shining. It’s one of the worlds busiest cruise ports and boy you could tell.

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I think the weather makes a massive difference on trips like these. Having never been on a cruise before, it was really alien to me that we could only spend a few hours in each destination, despite the fact they all offered so much. So I have personally found that the places we stopped off that were sunnier stand out more in my memory. Warnemunde is one of them.

Walking down the river was like Instagram heaven. Every house was different, they were all unique in colour and style, the boats were dotted along the river and every ten meters there was another little dog dodging peoples feet. If I were to use one word for Warnemunde it would be ‘quirky’. A quirky little port full of quaint architecture and funky shops with bars, cafes and restaurants dotted everywhere.

Our first stop was at this cute little café, where I got a diet coke, as per usual and we sat chatting and soaking up the sun. We also visited a little restaurant later to grab a light lunch. As I try to avoid dairy (being lactose-intolerant!) I do sometimes find it hard to pick something from a menu that doesn’t have dairy in it. However, we ordered a pizza and I picked off the cheese- classy as hell, I know- and we (all 9 of us!) shared it.

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One of my absolute favourite things about the cruise was dinner. I love any excuse to get dressed up and I bought several outfits for the cruise. Most nights we booked a table in Tropicana, the slightly more fancy- and free (!)- form of dining. It was quite easy to avoid dairy on the ship from the menu as there were just so many options for food. I can totally see why people say you can just eat the whole time. Everything is just SO yummy. Plus, the wine and beer package didn’t help with the calorie intake! Luckily I didn’t have to drink my prosecco alone, Hollie (holliesfashion.wordpress.com/blog/) was my prosecco drinking partner in crime. The first night I had a pistachio tart and lordy it was insane. The presentation of the food was absolutely stunning.

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If I’m honest, it was completely fantastic. I visited so many amazing places, in some countries I have never been to before.

Warnemunde was a score!

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Bee xoxox