The Cherry on the Cake Theory

The Cherry on the Cake Theory

I am a free, independent woman, who don’t need no man. (This is not to say I don’t very much appreciate my man, but that’s by the by!)

I have always been very set on this. My life is my life. People can add to it, but my life will always remain exactly that- mine.

One of the best, most valuable life lessons that my Mum has taught me, is the Cherry on the Cake Theory.

Metaphorically speaking, the cake is life. In life we should surround ourselves with people we aspire to be like, people that make us happy and (most importantly) people who add to our lives. That make our lives that little bit sunnier. People come and go- and that’s OK. Sometimes it’s really easy to find someone special and fall for them, hard. My Mum has always maintained that this someone should be ‘the cherry on the cake’. They should make life better. But they should not be the cake itself.

My Mum knows a lady who lost her husband at an unfortunately young age. While they were talking she asked her how she managed to cope with it, and the lady responded that she had her own life too. That her husband wasn’t her entire life. He was, naturally, a huge piece. But she kept a piece for herself.

The point is, no matter how happy you are with your partner, it’s so incredibly important to keep your own life too. Keep in touch with your friends, have your own hobbies- have your own life. You’ll have more to talk about, you’ll be happier and you’ll never feel isolated.

New Series: ‘Teenage Struggles’

New Series: ‘Teenage Struggles’

Hi everybody,

I have recently turned 21. And with this came the realisation that I’m no longer a teen. I mean, that was obvious when I turned 20 as well, but it really hit home on my 21st birthday. I’m no longer just out of my teenage years. I’m in my twenties.

It got me thinking. I experienced a lot of the stereotypical things that teenagers go through, from spots of every kind, periods from hell and body changes that seemed totally premature. I also had my fair share of mortifying moments, from embarrassing crushes, rejection, splitting my trousers at school and sitting in chewing gum (my own!!)- to list a few!

Basically your teenage years are a whirlwind of emotions- and sometimes completely crap. I have a 14 year old sister and I watch her going through exactly the same things as I did. So I thought I would start a series of blogs all about ‘teenage struggles’. I absolutely love writing my ‘girl problem’ series, and I thought I could share my own experiences (and ultimately what I’ve learnt!) with you.

So here it is, my official introduction to my new series ‘Teenage Struggles’, because the #struggleisreal 🙌

So cheers to raging hormones, friendship struggles, big ass spots that appear on school photo day and the emergence of wobbly bits! And all the things that make us stronger women💪

I will be uploading one a week (🤞) and will be posting about these on my instagram too (@abeesworld)!

Bee xoxo

My Favourite Study Spots on the University of Warwick Campus

My Favourite Study Spots on the University of Warwick Campus

The University of Warwick has plenty of places to study, but I have 5 top places I prefer, all for different reasons.

The Library

When I have looming deadlines and can feel the pressure, the library is usually where I head. Doing a History Degree, as with other courses, means that besides essays, I have seminar preparation, or pre-reading. This can vary from minimal reading to crazy amounts (of course, skim reading is a skill I picked up pretty quickly!). The library is ideal when I’ve got shed loads of work and need complete silence- the top three floors are silent areas. However, my friends and I often meet in the library on the first two floors, so we can get work done and have a natter while we’re at it. Also, the first two floors allow food and hot drinks, which I love. Another bonus of the library is the seating areas, despite being pretty busy, the library is full of sofas and tables depending on your preference, along with computer access and printing resources if you require them. Essentially, the library is where I get the most work done.

The Library Cafe

I am not one of those people that can work in a lot of noise, I find it very hard to focus if people are talking to me, or if I can hear conversations. But, the library café is potentially one of my favourite places to go. It’s loud enough to drown out specific conversations and there is almost always a table. Plus they do some pretty good coffee, and if you’re lucky crepes!

Curiositea

Curiositea is one of my favourite parts of campus, I am definitely more of a coffee shop girl than a clubber. I love being sat in a vintage tea room, surrounded by cake and studying, especially right at the start of the day, when it’s completely silent and I can nab one of the comfy chairs. Again, Curiositea is loud enough for the noise not to disrupt my train of thought. Its definitely my favourite place to go on Campus with my friends and after a big deadline we treat ourselves to a slice of cake- my favourite is the Red Velvet!

The Learning Grid

I always love the idea of going to the Learning Grid but I found it completely depends on what time of the day you head over, as to how likely you are to get a seat. Split into silent and non-silent, the Learning Grid is a pretty quiet and relaxed study space. It’s also right next to Costa Coffee- bonus! I often head over there if I intend to do work on my own or am on campus particularly early or particularly late. If you’re lucky you can get one of the sofas.

Fusion

Putting aside how much I adore the food at Fusion (especially the chilli beef with rice!), it’s actually a great place to get work done. When campus is buzzing and finding a space to study, where you aren’t squished against a complete stranger, is proving difficult, then Fusion is my go-to. Not very many people go to study there, but its relatively quiet and, when it’s not peak food time, I can get a lot of work done. Plus I don’t think I have ever studied there and not had an entire table to myself. If I’m having a rough day, a portion of fries helps with the studying.

I hope this was useful and maybe if you’re on campus you could check these spots out and see where you can see yourself studying. If there are any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask!