20 Life Lessons, learnt in 20 years.

  1. Money does not equal happiness.
  2. Saying no is OK.
  3. Empowered women, empower other women.
  4. Stand up for what you believe in- always.
  5. Don’t compare your life to others.
  6. Surround yourself with those that love you and make you feel worthy.
  7. Giving will make you happier.
  8. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
  9. Nobody is in charge of your happiness but you.
  10. Paying someone a compliment can make their day.
  11. Avoid negative people.
  12. Be honest.
  13. Admit to your mistakes- don’t let them define you.
  14. Family comes first.
  15. People come and go, enjoy every second.
  16. Be yourself- you’re one of a kind.
  17. The grass is always greener on the other side.
  18. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
  19. Life’s greatest lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.
  20. Having dark days simply makes the bright days brighter.

50 ways to prevent feeling overwhelmed- taking back control and self-care

  1. Make a weekly “to-do” list.
  2. Mind-map all the little things playing on your mind- no matter how seemingly insignificant.
  3. Have a weekly pamper session- tan, nails, hair etc.
  4. Take a hot bath.
  5. Remind yourself of your importance.
  6. Lay in the sunshine.
  7. Make your bed.
  8. Choose a new book to read.
  9. Put on fresh comfortable clothing.
  10. Re-read one of your favourite books.
  11. Allow yourself to laugh.
  12. Choose tomorrows outfit before bed.
  13. Try a new walk.
  14. Turn your phone off for a whole day.
  15. Watch an all-time favourite movie.
  16. Ask someone for advice or help.
  17. Book a short break away.
  18. Spend time with animals.
  19. Have a good cry.
  20. Say no when you start feeling overwhelmed.
  21. Go to the seaside.
  22. Throw out, or give to charity, your old clothes.
  23. Sing like nobody else can hear you.
  24. Get up early- make the most of every day.
  25. Make spontaneous plans.
  26. Listen to peaceful music.
  27. Take multi-vitamins.
  28. Write down your goals and stick them somewhere you see them every day.
  29. Do something creative- crafts, knit, sew etc.
  30. Let it go.
  31. Treat yourself, have a cake or a pizza every now and then.
  32. Get an early night.
  33. Make a list of all the things you are thankful for.
  34. Healthy body, healthy mind.
  35. Unplug from social media.
  36. Take a nap.
  37. Hug someone for longer than 10 seconds- it’s proven to relieve stress.
  38. Surround yourself with people that make you happy.
  39. Declutter your home/ room.
  40. Write your feelings down in a journal.
  41. Step out of your comfort zone- cook a new recipe.
  42. Sit in the garden or in the park for an hour and watch the world go by.
  43. Eat a healthy diet.
  44. Have a pyjama day.
  45. Do some baking.
  46. Listen to your favourite song.
  47. Wear your favourite perfume.
  48. Get a haircut.
  49. Go outside, lie on your back and watch the sky.
  50. Call someone you love.

Oh I do like to be beside the seaside

I always say how much I love the beach. One of the biggest reasons is that it never fails to brighten up a day (no matter how grey or rainy) and makes me feel super fresh. I had been in the house pretty much all day and I was in need of some vitamin sea (punny).

I found out today there is a name for beach lovers- Thalassophile. Meaning: a lover of the sea.

Here are a few of the photos we took today!

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A walk on the beach just never fails to blow the cobwebs away!

Top 8: Things I am looking forward to this Summer

It’s officially Summer! That means BBQ’s, beach days, bikinis and knobbly bobblies!

This is just a little post to discuss the things I am most excited about this coming Summer. There is something about Summer that makes everyone seem happier. Life just seems to have more of a buzz to it. Plus it’s friggin beautiful this time of year. If you’ve visited my blog before (hello, old friends!) then you’ll know I LOVE living by the beach. If not (welcome!)- it’s my favourite place in the whole world. So Summer, to me, revolves a large amount around the salty aired, chip smelling, seagull full seaside of the South Coast of England.

So here we go, the Top Ten Things I am excited for this Summer:

  1. A Cruise around the Baltics
  • 3 weeks! I am so excited to go. I have never been on a cruise, but from what I hear it’s food, trips, food, relaxation and more food. Which is funnily enough right up my street (me being a big old foodie anyway!) My Grandparents always try and come back the same, or less in weight by walking round the cruise ship frequently throughout the cruise. And by that I mean they do laps. When I first heard this I thought it was a bit excessive, but having discussed it with others- the cruise ship food sounds dangerously appealing! For the sake of my 8th aim for the summer (getting fit and healthy)- I may adopt this habit in the hope of coming back the same size!
  1. My Mini French Break
  • After my cruise (ooh sounds rather fancy written down J), I have a little bit of a manic switch around, where I am getting on the vomit comet from Portsmouth to Cherbourg the next day to join my family in France. This I am absolutely buzzed for.
  • Every other year we go away with my family to lovely houses in France, and this year I am missing a large chunk due to being on a cruise. This is sadly the consequences of growing up, being an adult forces you to make crappy decisions. (Obviously I am aware that of all crappy decisions, choosing between and a cruise and beach side holiday in France is a pretty decent one!).
  • So I will spend a few days in France, hopefully doing what we do best. That’s playing cricket, drinking wine, singing loudly to songs from 30 years ago, competitive playing of cards for pure pride of winning and taking it in turns to cook a meal (MasterChef style). Along with pretending to be fluent in French, treating the Carrefour as a day trip and roasting marshmallows on the BBQ.
  1. Getting my Puppy (a Goldendoodle)
  • We have literally been talking about getting another dog for years, but its finally happening! We are bringing our little afro ball of pure blonde fluff home after our holiday. I am so excited to see how she gets along with Jim, to buy all her PINK things, choose new toys and have a dog that fetches! Jim is a border terrier, and lordy he is a sweetie… though retrieving has never been his thing. He’s more of a throw the toy for me, I’ll chase it and then rip it to shreds kind-of-guy. I’m also super buzzed to have puppy cuddles. Eek, even thinking about it I cannot wait!IMG_3207
  1. Moving into my new Flat in Leamington
  • I think this next (and final- omg help me) year of University could be the best. I am going to be living with my best friends, in a little flat in Royal Leamington Spa. Besides the obvious living with my best friends and literally having a bestie sleep over every night, I am excited for all the little things. A clean home (hopefully!), candles, car sharing, movies in eachothers beds, getting ready for nights out with each other, eating meals together and being able to walk to the room next door when I realise (as I do every 5 minutes with my history degree) that I don’t know what I’m doing. It’s just going to be FAB.
  1. Decorating my home room
  • I recently decorated my room, a soft pink and I cant wait to add some final touches. At the moment I am OBSESSED with flamingos and I am constantly on Not On the Highstreet looking at inspiration. I love all things flamingo, cactus, pineapple and fluffy. So I’m having a field day searching for things to add to my room. I am getting some new shelves and a new bed.
  1. Our London Get-Away
  • For Jack’s birthday I bought him a trip to London and I have several ideas (no concrete plans yet- which I actually find more exciting!). One at the top of my list is Sketch- a centre for food, art and music. Every so often a new artist is allowed to totally revamp the restaurant, to recreate it in their own way. And OMG it looks insane. I’ll insert some pictures because hell-to-the-yeah I am going there.sketch 2sketch loosketch
  1. Days by the Beach
  • Need I say more. I love it. I drag Jack there all the time. We go to the arcade, we eat ice cream and we walk for miles chatting about what ifs.IMG_2850
  1. Getting fit and healthy
  • Membership- yep. Have I been much- nope. Need to work on the last bit, but baby steps! I have felt so much better being at home, with regards to my diet. I just feel that when I’m exam stress free I eat better. So getting fit and healthy is something I’m super excited about.

Pink Floral Room Inspiration

Hi everyone!

Over the weekend I decorated my room and oh boy was it hard work.

My family had gone camping and I couldn’t because of work commitments. So I was working 10 to 7 on Saturday and 9 to 6 on Sunday… and decided to completly gut and decorate my room- pure stupidity.

Lesson’s learnt:

  1. Preparation (much to my disgust) is key
  2. Moving to University meant I have double the amount of ‘stuff’- which happens to need to be out back into my room. Which, unlike my wardrobe, has not grown.
  3. If you want perfection- pay someone else.

Skills:

  1. I learnt to man up a lil bit- crying in a built in wardrobe because you can’t take the lid off the paint is not productive. Especially crying on the phone to your Dad.
  2. How to wash paint out of your hair.
  3. I figured out how to avoid getting paint in you eyes and mouth- step as far away as possible.

At the end of the day, I can honestly say that I would be happy never painting another room again. It makes me miserable, tired and put my relationship to the test! But it does look very nice now and I am very pleased.

I painted it a Dulux White Blossom pink colour, which is a very subtle, not too childish, pink. Here are some of the plans I have for it!

I am loving all things flamingo at the moment, but I also love cactus’- I’m hoping to include both features, without it looking bonkers. I love the whole design side of these things, but its safe to say I’m not a interior painter… actually I suck at it!

Side note: All of the above can be found on Not on the Hightstreet- My all time favourite!

 

 

London is ALWAYS a good idea

Yesterday we had a day trip to London and as per usual, it was awesome.

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London is an international hub for all things business. Yet everyone belongs. People go to London to stand out, but equally it is one of the only places in the world where one can truly disappear. It is not always pleasant, agreeable, cheerful or easy, but always magnificent.

Several people have said to me that going to London in ‘times like these’ is dangerous, even foolish, following the attacks. I entirely disagree. London feels the strongest and perhaps the safest in these times.

London is my favourite city in the world. Jack and I have visited London several times, we have climbed the O2, been to Theatres, stayed on the Thames, walked in Hyde Park, we have shopped in Oxford Street and have made magical memories in a magical city. London is beautifully unpredictable, from who you will see and the events that are taking place, to the weather.

I would describes yesterday’s London as grey. But not a dull grey, the sort of grey the sky turns when its full of clouds. A bright, glowy sky, where the sun is trying to shine through, but the thick layer of clouds prevent it. It’s actually the sort of grey sky that makes me sleepy. It’s too dark for sunglasses but so sunny you end up squinting. Yesterday’s London was busy, colourful and noisy. It was perfect.

Here are some photos I took on my travels 🙂

Someone drove over my laptop & I got hives: EXAM SEASON

Hello everybody!

I am back to blogging weekly and I have such a fun filled summer ahead of me, so hopefully this page will be full.

The last month or so has been full of exams and exam revision- which has been super tedious, and of course there was very little to blog about! I basically became a couch/desk potato. But a really stressed one.

In today’s blog I am going to talk about how I react to the pressure of exams and I am going to be brutally honest, I get pretty worked up.

STAYING ON TOP OF THINGS
  • Having sat GCSE’s, A Levels and First Year University exams, I can definitely see a pattern in the way I react. I can get quite a stress head and, honestly, melt downs are inevitable. If anything, I think it’s kind of healthy to have a panic sometimes. It sort of forces me to talk to people about how much work I have and how I feel, but also makes me put a plan in place.
  • With my closest friends at University, I have also discovered that this is not unusual- which is always reassuring. I know for sure that they have had a funny five, where everything seems too much. So talking to friends definitely helps, because half the time they feel just as unprepared for exams or assessments as you do!
  • I have to have down time. Some of my friends can work from the minute they get up, to the minute they fall asleep- not me! I like to go to the gym, talk to people and if I can I’ll avoid having lunch on my own. University during exam season, especially when you live off of campus, can be quite lonely. So making sure I had human contact at least once a day was really important to me.
TAKING BACK CONTROL
  • During exams, I often end up feeling like I don’t have my crap together, which is really not a good way to feel. So I like to take back control of aspects of my life- it’s a control strategy.
  • I like to pamper myself, I will work until an hour before bed (unless I am hella stressed) and will paint my nails, fake tan or do something simple like shave my legs! Then when I wake up the next day, even if my work load seems impossible, I look like I’ve got control.
  • Also- everyone else thinks you have your crap together too!

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How my body reacts
  • This sounds like such a weird subtitle but actually I notice several differences in myself when I am under pressure.
  • I had a massive break out during my exam period, which was mega frustrating, but on the bright side- I became a social recluse so I could walk around bare faced and let my face sort itself out most days without feeling self-conscious. I found that the Clinique products, in particular the face foam, was really good at countering this face explosion of yuck.
  • Carrying a few more pounds. It’s never nice feeling chubba during exams (or afterwards!), but I had to prioritise and revision took precedent. I just tried to go to the gym or for a run at least three times a week and tried not to give into my inner Revision Pig. Let’s face it we all have bad days, where you eat what you shouldn’t and kick yourself afterwards. But sometimes you need it!

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Things just sometimes go wrong… and you just have to deal with it!
  • My laptop got run over… This was potentially the low point of 2017. Or University! I am going to cut a long story short here, but basically my laptop was left propped against a fence at the back of my house while I was moving out. And not in the boot with the rest of my belongings. Then I assume someone picked it up and attempted to get into it, gave up and threw it in the middle of the road with my chargers. Even writing this the butterflies and sense of panic are coming back- it was awful. What’s worse is I didn’t even realise. For over 24 hours. Until my flat mate text me saying that someone turned up at the front door with my beaten up laptop. Luckily, minimal damage has happened but boy did I feel terrible (and completely stupid). Despite the smashed up chargers and dented laptop, it did, and does, function, but definitely needs to be sent off for repairs. Low point of University for sure. And biggest ‘blonde moment’ to date.
  • My spinny chair- a far less significant incident, but nonetheless a right pain in the butt. Two of the wheels on my spinny chair fell off right in the middle of revision, which despite improving my core muscles, was not cool. I tried to twizzle them back on, but the majority of revision took place while balancing on the remaining three wheel. Sh*t happens.

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Hay fever + Exams = Hives on face.
  • The night before my toughest exam, I got very worked up about how little I felt I knew and was freaking out about how important the exam was. Once again, long story short, the mixture of hayfever and stress led to me calling my Mum (who obviously would know what to do) at 11pm to work out what had set it off. We came to the conclusion that it was merely hayfever and stress, but it was proper unnerving to look at. I even woke up with hives the next morning, so went to the exam looking like I’d been poking a wasps nest.

I think the underlying theme here is: stress is not pretty. But usually its short lived and you have to manage it the best you can.

So that’s my exam period experience- everyone’s is unique, but most people will agree, it’s never fun!