I am Bronwyn. My closest friends and family call me Bee. I have a little scar next to my eye from standing on a chair in nursery, shouting at the top of my lungs for a marmite sandwich and an undying love for foam bananas. I’m terrified of zombies (despite the fact I know they don’t exist). Having worked in a baby shop and children’s nurseries- I know a ridiculous amount about babies without ever having had one (and for some reason I could list off 15 pushchair brands, but struggle to recall what I learnt last week at Uni). I love cats, but fear them equally- for I find them peculiarly unpredictable creatures. I study history because I enjoyed it and it seemed to close the least doors for me in life. I’m an open book, my emotions are splashed across my face the second I feel them, I’m oversensitive, silly 80% of the time, prone to over-apologising and ultimately imperfect, but not insignificant. I am a people person. I like to please. I am working on accepting that not everyone will like me all of the time- and that’s OK. I have been, and still am, vulnerable at times and have found confidence isn’t borne out of things going right, often confidence grows when, quite frankly, the shit hits the fan.
I am a work in progress. I am enough. I belong. I am me: perfectly imperfect.
Remember you are too. Your best is enough. You belong. You are fiercely loved. You are perfectly imperfect.
Over the last week I have seen so many articles focussing on how bad Easter eggs are for you. Ranging from calories to how many burpees you would need to do to burn them off… for real?! Though I am not surprised, it is pretty sad to think that Easter (and the opportunity to eat Easter Eggs) comes round once a year, and we are being told not to enjoy it!? These sort of articles just make people feel bad. Unnecessarily. Because sometimes you need a treat. There are so many of us worrying about our health anyway, these articles are just damaging, not only to our idea of a healthy balanced diet, but to self confidence too. So here are my thoughts on eating Easter Eggs at Easter time!
Having a healthy balanced diet: I treat myself. Otherwise, quite frankly, I’d go loopy. I have tried diets- and they just make me miserable. A healthy balanced diet means I eat good 80% of the time. In the other 20% I make room for Easter Eggs, the odd glass of wine and a meal out if I choose. Depriving yourself is really bad, deprivation simply leads to binging, which leads to unhappiness. AKA, a vicious cycle, and an unhappy you. I do not claim to be a nutritionist, but if you check any out, they are forever disproving myths surrounding diets. Often they prove that a healthy, balanced diet is the way forward. So as I’m sat here, hell yeah I’m eating an Easter Egg!!
But what about my weight? I have never, ever, stepped off of the scales feeling anything but inadequate. For me standing on the scales is the worst possible thing I could do for my mental health. I could be on a real health kick, for weeks- but the minute I step on those scales, I can lose it all. I automatically go from feeling positive about myself and expecting to see a physical difference, to thinking ‘pass me a chocolate bar, this healthy eating has done sod all for me’. Every time I do the same thing. I get upset, I compare myself to others, I wear baggy clothes for a few days (and binge) and then I give myself a pep talk. Because they really are only numbers. They don’t define me, nor my worth, or my health. I have always been heavier than I expect. But I end up assessing my life in general. Do I eat healthily 80% of the time? Yes. Am I active on a daily basis? Yes. Am I in a positive mindset the majority of the time? Yes. I know I am healthy.
One day will not make me gain weight: Have you ever gone to the gym and lost weight after a day? Nope. So this one day of eating an Easter Egg will not make you gain weight. Think of this as a day off. Granted, one day at the gym gets you one step closer to where you want to be, but these moments of indulgence will not have an impact on the long run. Especially not when mixed with a health diet the majority of the time. If you feel bad, go to the gym an extra time this week or squeeze in an extra 15 minutes work out.
Easter Egg Guilt: We live in a world where people are counting calories left, right and centre, there are apps for it, books for it and DVD’s for it. The celebratory seasons are the worst for it, whether it’s Christmas or Easter (the two biggest seasons of enjoyment), we have calorie counts rammed down our throats. When the reality is: I love skittles and wine. Sometimes I don’t ‘deserve’ them, but quite frankly the idea of ‘working for’ these indulgences is ludicrous. It’s two days a year. Real life has to come first sometimes. I am certainly not prepared to start turning down pudding at the Easter roast dinner, or ask everyone not to bother getting me an Easter Egg this year. Life is for enjoying!
What I am trying to say is, future you isn’t going to think ‘I’m really glad I didn’t eat those Pringles on the 28th February’, it’s all about moderation. If you’re working towards a goal, whether that’s a number, a shape or simply a healthier lifestyle- patience is key. Results don’t happen over night. So allow yourself an Easter treat (or multiple), maybe it will give you that extra reason to stay good for the rest of the week, or work that little bit harder in the gym. In my case, I feel like it simply gives me a boost, my enjoyment this weekend will allow me to have a healthier mindset throughout the rest of the week.
We are entitled to enjoy our food. Life is for living and enjoying. Look after your body and treat it sometimes.
Spring has sprung! With every new season I get super excited to change up my beauty products. I have a big box of makeup, but the tippety top ones get put in my makeup bag. Spring, to me, means lighter and brighter colours, and a spring spruce up of beauty products and skincare routine!
So today I thought I would share with you my favourite spring products so far. I will try and keep the pointless chatter to a minimal and run through the products I have been loving this March- and will be using into Spring!
Clarins Instant Light Natural Lip Perfector, in Petal Shimmer: £18.50. A super soft textured lip gel with a deliciously sweet scent. I really dislike lipglosses that are goo-ey, when it feels like you’re applying slime to your lips! This just feels really natural and give my lips that little plump. Plus, there is very little colour to it, so it’s subtle and perfect for nipping out. I usually wouldn’t spend this sort of money on lipglosses (being a student/cheap skate) but I got this for Christmas and would totally buy it again when it runs out. They do this is several shades too!
Batiste Instant Hair Refresh, in Rose Gold: £1.48.This is one of my ride or die products. I use this almost daily. Recently, I have had SUPER knotty hair, and I have tried everything. When I went to my hairdresser she suggested washing my hair less often (before I was washing it almost every day- yup, bad habit I know!). So I’ve been trying out washing it less frequently and doing more exciting things with my hair to disguise the second/third day hair grease that is totally natural (but still ew). If you fancy checking out some of these hair style click here. Dry shampoo instantly refreshes my hair, banishing my oily roots and gives my hair a makeover without any water. It’s quick, easy and smells divine! My personal favourite is the Rose Gold, or the Cherry. I put it in the night before (anticipating the oily roots in the morning!) so I wake up feeling fresh.
Because It’s You, Emporio Armani: £48-£89. This is by far the most expensive product on my March favourites, buuuut it’s my absolute favourite. I am terrible at describing smells, so I’ll let Armani do it for me: it has notes of raspberry and neroli, rose absolute, vanilla and musk. Trust me, it’s lush. As a student my bank account quivers with the idea of buying this for myself- so I always ask for it for Christmas or grab it in Duty Free! When I was 12, my parents went to New York and came back with the Emporio Armani Diamond. I had been using it up until last Christmas, when I decided to spice life up, and try their newer one. And I am obsessed. I am an Emporio Armani girl for life.
Botanics All Bright Radiance Concentrate Serum: £8.99.I work with Botanics and lemme tell you, they are amazing! They constantly impress me with their amazing collections and high quality products. This concentrate serum is fantastic for adding that extra glow to your skin. Though I love the darker shades of Winter makeup, by the time Spring comes I’m itching to have that glowy, golden tint to my forever pale skin. You can buy this from their website here, or at Boots. I highly recommend!
Hollister Solana Beach Travel Mist, in Raspberry Waterlily: £5. A big throwback to school, everybody had one of these bottles in the bags! I still love the smell, it’s a super fresh body mist. Plus the size makes it really easy to carry around if you fancy freshening up.
I Heart Revolution Blushing Hearts Goddess Of Faith: £4.99.This is ridiculous value for money, as it’s huge, lasts ages and is super pigmented. I would own every single one of this collection if I could. This particular colour suits my fair skin tone really well and gives me that extra glow.
Benefit Roller Lash Mascara: £21.50.This is a super-curling and lifting mascara, aka a roller for lashes! This is one of my all time favourites. As someone who has pretty short, straight eye lashes, I find this makes them look significantly longer and far more volumous. I have it in the Black shade. I also think the product itself is super cute!
Collection Lasting Perfection Concealer: £4.19.Tried this donkeys years ago, and have never gone back! Long lasting concealer, that doubles up as a base for eyeshadow application. I use the shade 1 (and am itching to try their new shade 0) and apply it to any imperfections and blemishes, as well as under my eye, down my nose, on my chin and on my cupids bow to highlight and sculpt my face. Love. It. Plus- £4.19- barrrgaiin.
Botanics All Bright Soothing Eye Makeup Remover: £5.49.This eye make up remover literally melts the makeup off my face! It’s fab. Again, all natural and removed all traces of make-up from around the eye area, while the botanical infused formula soothes. All the ingredients that go into these products are from the Royal Botanical Gardens at Kew Palace. If you haven’t been, I definitely recommend a visit. The gardens are beautiful, especially for a picnic in the spring! Click here to order it from boots!
GALifornia Powder Blush Travel Size Mini: £12.50. This blush is a mixture of bright pink and with shimmering gold and adds a sun kissed glow to your skin. It’s perfect for spring!
L’Oreal Paris Infallible Lip Paint Matter, in the colour Hollywood Beige: £6.99.This comes in multiple colours, but this is by far my favourite! It’s a soft pinky nude and lasts up to 8 hours. It makes for the most flawless pout and smells delicious.
Tanya Burr, in Wild Safari and Birthday Cake: £6.99.These are my absolute favourite lipsticks. I have several of the other colours too. They’re so reasonably priced, smooth to apply and hydrating to my lips. Plus, the colours range from nudes to fun colour pop shades. I love the bright coloured lips in Spring, I feel like it can pull an entire outfit together and make a real statement.
MAC Cosmetics Matte Lipstick, in Mehr and Velvet Teddy: £16.50.I often switch between these two, or combine them. Velvet Teddy has a more brown tone to it, and Mehr is more of a raspberry tone. I personally love matte lipsticks as I feel they can double up as sheer lipstick as well, by adding some lipgloss, or even a lip balm on top. MAC lipsticks last such a long time too. Both these colours are subtle, but make my lips look fuller and plumper.
So there you have it, my March favourites, and the makeup I shall be wearing into Spring. I hope you enjoyed reading this!
In a world that is so stressful and highly emotionally charged, it’s easy to take on other people’s problems. Research has even shown that emotions can be contagious, you can potentially ‘catch’ fear, anger and joy from people without even realising it. This is something I know I do. I am very susceptible to ‘catching’ people’s emotions. It’s something I really struggle with.
Are you an emotional sponge?
Being an “emotional sponge” isn’t always a bad thing. Being sensitive towards other peoples emotions, I like to think, can make you a better person.
The question ‘are you OK?’ is majorly underrated. Those three words can make someone go from feeling alone in a situation, to having an outlet. Being sensitive means you observe emotions far more than others. Being an emotional sponge means you probably worry about how someone is feeling perhaps more often than others, and can read situations differently.
Though, sometimes it’s easy to take on too much. I find this incredibly easy to do.
So, in being aware of my sponginess, I hope to be able to deal with it better and use it to my advantage. Here are a few ways I have learnt to deal with my tendency to be an emotional sponge.
Answer this: is this feeling mine, or someone elses?Sometimes I feel such strong empathy for other people, that it can genuinely dictate my entire day. From the moment I wake up I can find myself concerned for somebody else’s emotions. I often have to put it into harsh terms, with the question: ‘is this any of your business?’Because half the time- it’s not.
Recognise the difference between empathy and sympathy.Empathy is where you feel other people’s emotions, whereas sympathy is simply the compassion. If you empathise you’re putting yourself in their position. It’s better for you, and for you to guide other people, when you’re sympathetic, rather than emotional invested.
Express yourself.This is something I find so difficult: saying when enough is enough. It’s important to be honest, to say ‘I’m sorry I can’t help you’. When you sit for hours and hours, listening, it is unbelievably easy to be a sponge. This is the one I find the most challenging, because often I feel that to back off can feel like you’re abandoning people.
Distance yourself from the suspected source.If you know specific situations or individuals can bring your mood down, and perhaps you’re particularly vulnerable to it at this time, remove yourself from the situation. I find this equally hard, especially as I like to help people and despise seeing people feeling isolated.
Talk to other people. If you’re concerned for somebody it’s easy to take on the role of ‘the rock’by yourself. But speaking to other people about it really can help. This keeps your own mental health in check. I always remind myself that I am far more helpful if I, myself, am happy.
I refuse to think of being sensitive as a weakness. To me, it is a strength. But sometimes you have to put number one first and that means taking a step back. I’ve learnt to accept that I am not responsible for others.
This is a personal struggle I am attempting to overcome- I want to be more sympathetic in life and a little less empathetic.
16 million people in the UK experience a mental illness. 3 in 4 mental illnesses start in childhood. 75% of young people with mental health problems are not being treated. Suicide is the biggest killer of young people in the UK. A study recently showed that more than A THIRD of teenage girls in England suffer from depression and anxiety.
These are some scary figures. Though social media is not the only reason for this, I think it has a huge impact. Our lives are not perfect, but nobody’s is. We’re humans, we all have sadness, worries, family issues, friendship struggles and all the crap that goes in-between. But we don’t publicise it online very often because it’s private, we don’t want people knowing.
Scrolling through your Instagram feed and seeing everyone else’s seemingly magical life can leave you feeling alone in life hurdles. It’s hard not to think everyone else’s life is perfect when you only ever see the best bits, the fun, the laughter, the happiness and the celebration of life. But this isn’t ReALiTy.
We all do it, we show the best bits of our lives. We need to talk more, and by talk I mean honest talk. Social media is never an honest representation of how that person really feels. Ask people how they are doing, even if their lives seem rosey through Instagram. A simple ‘hey, how are you?’ can open an honest conversation about LiFe.
Putting on a ‘brave face’ is so easy when you’re sat behind a phone, or a laptop, uploading to Instagram, Twitter or Facebook. But let’s be ReAl, we all know its a bunch of fibs. Life is beautifully imperfect. You have to have the bad days, for the good days to shine so bright.
Yesterday, I posted on my Instagram about an email I got from my Dissertation Tutor, that quite frankly was a pile of poop (if you want to check it out, click here). Again, something I haven’t really discussed on Instagram, Twitter or my Blog is the University Strikes. Something that has affected me in a HUGE way. But I haven’t spoken about it much as it’s one of the naffest parts of my life right now. But yesterday, as I sat at my desk, opened up my emails and was told that my Dissertation (that I have practically written over the last 4 weeks) included themes my Tutor deemed ‘irrelevant’- I decided I would talk about it (following a melt down and a pep talk from my boyfriend). Due to the strikes, I have had little to no contact with her, so cracked on with my work, thinking all was good. I thought my dissertation plan had been approved- as I hadn’t received feedback- and I would make the most of the 4 weeks of strikes. Anyway, I decided to email back saying that I had already written these sections and I believed they were relevant. I even told her why, in depth. So I’m awaiting a response and hopefully I will have convinced her.
This totally HoNeSt Instagram post, written with puffy eyes and butterflies, gave me some of the best feedback I have had to date. People were so sweet, giving me encouragement and saying they had experienced similar things. It made me realise, people identify a whole lot more to the ReALiTiEs. These realities of life include the down days.
So if you’re feeling low and you feel comfortable sharing it on social media, you could touch someone else who is struggling. We all fight battles, some of which nobody knows about. Some days are a little bit foggy and we have to realise its OK not to be OK all of the time.
Forever a home bird, I found moving out and going to University difficult. Despite people telling me about this incredible new chapter/ season/ adventure I was about to experience, I honestly wasn’t overly buzzed to go. Which sounds dreadful, because most people I speak to are so excited for University. That’s not to say I wasn’t looking forward to it entirely, I just wasn’t as ecstatic as my friends. To me, it just felt like I was leaving behind my family and my boyfriend and stepping completely out of my comfort zone. It forced me to do things independently and my confidence in myself grew.
I became comfortable in my own company.
It’s funny how our minds embellish things, when I think back to my parents dropping me off at my halls of residence, I picture me stood in my room, surrounded by my stuff- simply wanting to cry. Which is actually super sad. I remember forcing myself to walk into the kitchen, introduce myself and make a cup of tea. I wasn’t to know, at that point, that my flat and I weren’t going to ‘click’ (What People Don’t Tell You About University). I think this is a general misconception. I honestly don’t know anyone who has got along with everyone in their flat. But I know pleeeenty of people who met friends on their course and through societies. Anyway, I ended up spending a lot of time on my own- and most of the time I liked it. I got into YouTube (a lot) and I started blogging. I skyped my boyfriend and family once a day too. I was comfortable in my own company. Though, I did find it hard to adapt to. Now the idea of being alone doesn’t intimidate me, but I know for sure that I prefer being with other people.
I could start a conversation with anyone.
I decided that as my flat and I didn’t ‘click’ I would make new friends. I mastered the art of walking up to people I barely knew and inviting them to coffee. Maybe I did come across loopy. But I felt lonely. I liked being on my own for short periods of time, but I needed to socialise. Otherwise I would have gone crazy. I had recently watched ‘We Bought A Zoo’ and one of the characters said that all you need is 10 seconds of courage. And that’s how I justified it. Because once I’d said ‘do you fancy going for a coffee?’ it was out there and I couldn’t take it back, no matter how silly I felt. I went on quite a few coffee trips, meals out and started being invited to social events outside my flat. So it worked and it boosted my confidence! One of the things that bothered me most was that I worried I was the problem. This proved that I wasn’t.
I realised I was OK.
That was one of the biggest, and most important lessons University taught me. I had struggled at school and had quite low confidence. College was good for me in that sense, but I became far more confident at University. I ended up thinking that if I smiled, waved or spoke to someone and they didn’t do it back it was their problem, not mine. What’s the worst that could happen when you wave at someone and they don’t wave back? You look overly friendly? I mean over friendly has never offended me.
I was confident in my own decisions.
I didn’t particularly enjoy my Freshers, I had a rather unfortunate experience on my first Freshers event, and it really affected me. I felt quite uncomfortable on nights out and I realised pretty quickly I wasn’t going to be peer pressured into anything I didn’t want to do. This was something I felt really strongly about. I did, and still do, only go out if I have my ‘wingman’ (or woman!) with me. I’ve never felt entirely comfortable with clubbing, it’s just something I get quite anxious about- and my solution was surrounding myself in people I trust. People I know wouldn’t leave me alone in a club, feeling vulnerable. This confidence through making decisions for myself made me far more self confident. I socialised with who I wanted and when. Even now, I try really hard not to give into peer pressure.
University hasn’t been the easiest journey for me, but it taught me a lot about myself and what I want out of life. I would love to hear if you learnt any life lessons at University, had a bad experience or feel like an experience has shaped you as a person.
From a young age, the expectation to ‘be good’is something we have drummed into us. But sometimes our expectations of ourselves are simply too high. We’re perfectionists.
Perfectionism:Perfectionism means setting our goals too high and having unrealistic expectations. Being allergic to failure is often driven by an underlying sense of shame. If we can achieve some lofty goal and be perfectly successful, then no one can shame us. Failure is often a prerequisite for success.
Sometimes these high expectations of ourselves and want to ‘do good’can stop us from getting properly stuck into life. I have learnt that there are times to ponder over decisions and there are times to just do it.
If we let expectations rule our lives, we set ourselves up for disappointment.
I always feel so embarrassed when people ask me what I intend to do with my History Degree. As a Final Year Undergraduate, I really hoped I would know by now. I know what I want to do, in a generic sense- Marketing, HR or Advertising. But I’m not entirely set on anything. And I am not willing to make a decision, or even fib, just so that I don’t feel silly answering that question. Degrees are SO time consuming. I admire anyone who has something lined up after University, because the application processes are crazy long! But that’s the thing: I have time.
I’m itching to get a job, to have money and I want to travel and be one of those ‘free’ twenty-odd people I see all over social media. I was so set on having the above, and (for some peculiar reason) linked it with having a job lined up. But I have years to find the ‘perfect‘ job. And I will. My expectations, set by 18 year old me, of my 21 year old self, were too high.
My favourite phrase recently has been‘but we’re millennials’. My friend, Hannah, uses it all the time, and I kind of love it. I use it almost as an excuse! Us ‘millennials’ are pretty fortunate, we can have multiple jobs in a lifetime, we’re supposedly more self-assured and have a stronger sense of ‘civic responsibility’ and a healthy work-life balance. So, as a ‘millennial’ I want to focus on the now. I want to be my own kind of ‘good’.
(Note: having googled ‘millennials’, i am not one. How tragic. For the purposes of this blog post I will pretend I am. Though I am actually Generation Z. How naff does that sound? Lol.)
I want to ‘be good’ in my own way. What does this mean?
I will not be letting my own, or others, expectations of me rule my life. This is a vicious cycle, whereby I set myself up for disappointment. Then judge myselfharshly for it.
I am going to try to think of life in terms of adventures and ditch my ‘expectations’ and instead set myself realistic ‘goals’.
I will be hopeful that I exceed these ‘goals’ and will happily make way for something bigger and better.
I plan to trust that everything will work itself out, it always does. I’ll just keep working away.
When things go ‘tits up’ I am going to try my darned-ist to remain positive.
I want to enjoy the little things in life, and look back with achey cheeks and wrinkles from a lifetime of smiles and have zero regrets when reflecting bad on my ‘good’ life.
You know when you have a leotard wedgie or stick your thumb through your tights? Thats what this blog is about. All the irritating things clothes can do that make you want to walk around naked!
Trying to avoid your clothes touching the toilet floor.Bane. Of. My. Life. London is one of my favourite places to travel, but OMG never again shall I wear a jumpsuit while exploring the capital. Sat on the loo, holding your trouser legs up and thinking ‘why is the floor sticky’ is never fun.
Being able to fit into an 8 in one shop, and just about squeezing into a 14 in another... how?! What measurements do you use?!
The Leotard Wedgie. Put your hands in the air (like you just don’t care- forever an S Club 7 gal!) and ain’t no top untucking itself. Buuuut, you have a mighty wedgie all day. A compromise? I think not.
Hat hair. I try to pull of the cute hat look, but always end up with fluffy/ static/ sweaty hair and a silly looking makeup line.
I love me some Sequins, but can we appreciate the torture of wearing them sometimes? Plus the fact they can’t be washed and fall off everywhere. Scratchy little things.
Sticking your thumb through your tights. Give me strength. This is enough to ruin my mood all day. I even try and pack a second pair now, just in case!
When your ripped jeans… rip too much. OK I know this is a mega first world problem and I can hear every over-forty year-old in the country asking me ‘why did you buy ripped jeans then?’. Because they’re cool. OK. They’re not cool, however, when your knee is hanging out of the overly big hole that you busted bending over. Oh and another thing: I get chilly knees!
Side Zips.Pure evil. I genuinely feel like I’m from a scene from Jaws whenever I do up a side zip. The worst is a side zip under your arm. You have the frustration of trying to get the right angle without popping a shoulder. Then the panic that it could nip my skin at any moment. And I’ll be stuck. Forever. *cue dramatic music*
When your little toe pops out of your tights.Makes me cringe even thinking about it. (Makes me cringe using the word cringe) Eugh the horribly cold sensation as the rebel toe escapes. Never sure if it’s cold or a lack of blood supply from the tight-tights.
Someone stepping on the back of your flip-flop. This aggravates me immensely. It goes one of two ways: it breaks the toggle-bit between your toes. Or, it shoots forward in an attempt at freedom and you have to hop after it, humiliated.
Girl Struggles are one of my favourite things to write about. I think it’s because I’m a little bit dopey sometimes, and have experienced the majority of ‘Girl Struggles’ imaginable.
Hope you enjoyed reading this and maybe you even thought ‘same!’ (I hope someone did!) ,
The last few days have been spent in London and it’s left me feeling wonderfully festive!
Jack and I love exploring London, we’ve climbed the O2, been to the Theatres and visited almost every tourist point you can think of. London at Christmas time is truly magical.
We headed up on Monday night, after work, and stayed in the Luma Hotel. It’s definitely worth a visit, it’s in Hammersmith, built this year, and is a concept hotel. Basically meaning that the breakfast is grab and go, so not really an issue! It’s the cheapest hotel we have found and it’s lovely to stay in. Plus it’s right next to the Hammersmith Tube lines.
On Tuesday we hopped from tube to tube, visiting Harrods, having a cheeky EAT for lunch, then heading to Oxford Street and Regent Street to shop, followed by Hyde park and Bills for dinner.
Our entire trip was planned around The Russell Howard Hour tickets we managed to get free seats for a few months ago. Luckily Jack had applied for some priority seats the day before, which meant we were automatically given seats, as it was rammed.
The show was hilarious and I loved every second of it. The security guards were totally against using phones in the building so I don’t have any pictures. But if you get the chance, it’s well worth going! The guest star was James Oliver and the show is on tonight, so I’ll rewatch it and see if I can see myself (yep. Sad but true!)