Defining Moments

Defining Moments

This blog post was inspired by Natalie Leanne’s Blog Post that I read on the train journey home the other day. I’m super nosy and love learning more about people. Natalie’s Blog is so open and just so relatable- I highly recommend checking her blog out (natalieleanne.com).

On that note, I am going to share some of my defining moments in life and hope that others can relate!

Defining Moment Number 1: University. Seems pretty straight forward, but actually this was a defining moment for me in a way I totally didn’t anticipate. My first year of university I found really tough, and I know I’m not alone in this. I just felt so alone. I missed home, my family, my friends and my boyfriend. Plus I didn’t “click” with my Flat as much as I had hoped. My first year of university was a defining moment because it taught me so much about myself. I realised I am OK on my own, completely capable, but I wanted to be around people. I spent so much time alone, that now I try to make plans all the time, so I’m not. I almost exhausted my own company. Having said that, being alone doesn’t scare me as it used to. University also taught me to be independent. I didn’t automatically have those “life-long” friends from uni in my Halls, so I became that person who walks up and introduces themselves, asked if people to wanted to grab a coffee after lectures or meet up later on. This was SO out of my comfort zone, but I knew I didn’t want to feel isolated, so I did my best to make lots of friends. It actually worked and I met my two best University friends through having that little bit of extra courage. I came to the conclusion that being overly friendly isn’t a bad thing, that if all people can say about me is “she’s overly friendly” then I’m 100% OK with that. My initial sense of isolation and home sickness actually just pushed me to question myself, ask me who I wanted to be. Lonely wasn’t on my list, and friendless wasn’t either. So I forced myself out of my comfort zone. I still do this now. I have an added confidence in the fact that I’m a good human being. And if anything I’m more aware of other people’s feelings because of my experience.

(My University best friends, the ones I forced myself upon and have absolutely no regrets about!!!)

Defining Moment Number 2: is a rather random one. I can’t remember where we were when I heard it for the first time but I watched “We Bought a Zoo” a few years ago and the phrase “all you need is 10 seconds of courage” popped up. And since then it’s stuck with me. Through the difficulties at Uni, I would convince myself that all I needed was 10 seconds of courage. Once you’ve said “hi” that’s the hard bit out of the way. I used it for my first job at 15/16, in a huge store with loads of people I didn’t know. It helped me with handing in CVs (and resignations), with interviews, and dealing with situations I wasn’t comfortable in. 10 seconds, and it’s done. No take backs, just dealing with the consequences.

Defining Moment Number 3 is a little bit different. During my Freshers week I experienced something that a lot of women unfortunately experience in clubs. I had gone out with my flat and it was my first night of Freshers week. This experience really knocked my confidence. But it also proved to me that I knew what was and was not OK. And I like to think it’s made me a stronger person. I am very conscious in clubs, I’m constantly aware of my surroundings and actually find it quite hard to let my hair down and enjoy myself if I’m not with Jack. But it made me realise my worth. This is my body. I think recognising your worth, your value as a human being, is so important to a happy life. I genuinely believe I can do anything I want if I put my mind to it. I know I am as good as any man. This experience simply raised the question: are you ok with this? And the answer was hell no.

(This is a picture of Jack and I, in 2015, 1 week after Freshers. My family and him came to visit, and they were my rock!)

Of course I still have my insecurities, I most definitely have my (weekly/daily!) wobbles. But I would say that, now, I am confident in myself, as a person. I try hard to be the best version of myself.

I hope you enjoyed reading today’s blog.

What are your Defining Moments? Have you experience something similar to me? Let me know in the comments!

Bee xoxo

Top 15 Autumn & Winter Girl Struggles

Top 15 Autumn & Winter Girl Struggles

Hello everybody!

I love writing my ‘Girl Struggles’ Posts, so I decided to do one based on the struggles through autumn and winter.

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1) Static hair clinging to your cheeks and mouth.

frizz2) Getting hair caught in your lip gloss

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3) Hat hair, that look all girls avoid.

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4) Sweatiness… jumpers and coats are a great idea until you get too hot.

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5) Hairy dolphins, AKA not having the need to shave your legs, so you don’t. You can get away with this as long as you hide those ankles.

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6) Tights falling down and ultimately feeling like a toddler in a nappy. Or a penguin. 

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7) Lip balm all day every day.

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8) Blowing your nose and wiping off all your makeup.

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9) Trying to nip to the loo in a scarf, coat, jumper, t-shirt, skirt, tights and pants is no easy task. It’s more of a mission.

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10) Pale skin season!

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11) It’s the season to get sick #fralalalalaalalalala.

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12) Cold wind making your eyes water and your mascara run #totesemoshforwinter

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13) Having to ask a friend to hold your top down while you clamber out your jumper in the hope of avoiding an awkward bra flash.

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14) Your tights run more than you do.

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15) Skirts riding up, I mean it keeps your belly warm but exposes your butt.

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Hope you enjoyed reading! Have a lovely weekend!

Bee xoxo

Top Ten Beauty Hacks

Top Ten Beauty Hacks

Hello everybody!

Today I am talking about my top ten beauty hacks that I use! I hope you enjoy!

1) Fixing smudged nail varnish

There is nothing worse than doing your nails and then catching them on something, putting a mighty finger print on it or fluff getting stuck on them. So I figured out this trick a few years ago and have been doing it ever since. When the nail varnish is tacky, but no longer wet, you can (and this is going to sound super weird) lick the nail varnish. You can flatten and smooth out any marks and nobody would even know you smudged your nails. Top tip: make sure it’s not still wet though, because that just tastes gross.

2) Having that big eye look.

Use a white eye-liner on your waterline to give your eyes a pop.

3) Keeping your lips healthy and looking pumped. 

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I use the Carmex Lipbalm before I use any lipstick or lip gloss- it plumps up your lips and they never dry out. This works with matte lipsticks aswell.

4) Getting the perfect lip line. 

I intentionally brush the remnants of foundation from my brush over my lips, this means that when I apply my lipliner and lip stick I have a lighter base tone. This also helps because I always find that the skin around my lips can look a little pinker than other areas on my face.

5) When you buy the wrong shade foundation

I am the queen of mixing foudations. Sometimes it’s simply because I’m stingy, and other times it’s because I like the qualities of both foundations. If I want a full coverage look, but I perhaps haven’t tanned for a while, I will add a lighter shade of a different brand of foundation to the darker, full coverage one. This way I get the full coverage, but avoid the big orange line that no girl wants! This also works with foundations that you buy after holiday, when you’re that shade darker.

I personally use Rimmel Lasting Finish Foundation in the shade True Ivory (which was perfect after my holiday and is a total coverage foundations) and combine it with my L’Oreal Paris Colour Match Foundation in the shade 1N (which is more accurate now!).

6) Soap and Glory Wonderbronze Shimmer Brick

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This is one of the best products I have ever got. If I’m in a rush, I’ll use it as a bronzer, an eye shadow and will pick out the lighter tones (with a different brush) and use it for highlight as well. It also gives a lovely sun-tint that I always feel I’m lacking in the colder seasons. It’s a constant in my handbag for those moments I want to touch up my makeup!

7) Find that perfect lip colour- Tanya Burr, Pink Cocoa

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I searched for ages trying to find a lip stick that was just the right shade. I wanted one that I didn’t need to line my lips with and was a shade darker than my natural lip colour. This, for me, is Tanya Burr’s: Pink Cocoa, it’s so perfect and I can whack it out when I’m out and about to give my lips a little more colour but still look natural.

8) Give yourself a healing foot treatment while you sleep

Sometimes it’s nice to pamper yourself, but feet never seem to be at the top of my ‘pamper yo-self’ routine. I like to cover my feet in a thick moisturiser and go to bed with socks on- they feel like heaven the next day!

9) Spots vs. tooth paste/ sudocrem

If ever I am out at a friends and haven’t brought over my night time face routine with me (or even if I am super tired) I use tooth paste or sudocrem. Stupid though I may look, my spot’s are not going to be as aggravated the next day!

10) Run out of dry shampoo? Baby powder. 

I am blond, so maybe it works better on lighter hair, but this trick is legit! It works and lets face it, baby powder smells nice too. Double bonus.

These tricks are all ones that I use myself! I hope they are helpful!

Bee xoxox

 

NOT HAVING A PLAN (& BEING OK WITH IT)

NOT HAVING A PLAN (& BEING OK WITH IT)

Hello everybody!

I am in my final year of my degree and I have no idea where I will be in 5 years time. And I am learning to embrace this.

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Here are the my thoughts:

UNTIL NOW MY LIFE HAS BEEN METICULOUSLY PLANNED

Since the age of four, there has been an obvious ‘next step’. In Britain you move from  Reception, to Year One. Primary school to Secondary school. Secondary school to College. Even University can seem ‘expected’ of teenagers today.

The question: “Where will I be in 5 years?” is one that can be quite daunting. It almost requires commitment. To a lifestyle, a career, a destination or specific people. When, in actual fact, you don’t need to commit to anything.

KNOWING ALL THE ANSWERS- WHERE’S THE FUN IN  THAT?

“What are your plans after Uni?” or “What are you going to do with your degree?” are two questions Graduates are frequently asked. And frequently don’t know the answer to.

But, why is it so important to know the answer?

  1. Fear of disappointment. Nobody wants to be a ‘flop’. But question what your idea of ‘success’ is. For me, success is to be happy.
  2. Money. Spending over £30,000 on University education is far too much money to ‘throw away’. There is a lot of pressure to make sure you don’t ‘waste’ your degree.

There is almost a sense of sophistication in having a plan, but remember to do what YOU want to do.

5 YEARS FROM NOW

Where you will be in five years is just an estimated guess. People grow. People change. And you will continue to.

Embrace this, who knows how many adventures and successes the next five years will hold. Dream big.

Isn’t part of the fun NOT knowing?

MY FUTURE

I hope to be a better version of myself. To be happy in my career. To be a strong woman. To be well traveled, with piles of memories to go with it. I want to be genuinely satisfied with my life. I like the idea of constantly setting new goals, overcoming obstacles and grasping every opportunity.

 

It’s actually a wonderful feeling- a sort of freedom. You could be a number of things. The world is quite literally your oyster.

Bee xoxo

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