City Break Travel Essentials #Berlin

City Break Travel Essentials #Berlin

Hello everybody!

When you travel are you a chuck-it-all-in-and-go kinda gal or someone who needs lists?

I am a total list kinda chick. There will always be a handful of items you’ll inevitably forget when you pack for any type of trip. So I make a list in advance to try and prevent the (almost) inevitable! The hotel might have a hairdryer… but it might not/ almost certainly won’t have your favourite cleanser!

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I’m off to Berlin tomorrow and today I’m going to share with you my personal LIST. 

Basics:

  • Suitcase (in my case a little one as it’s a carry on #studentbudget)
  • Electronics: Phone, Kindle, Camera etc.
  • Chargers for the above (we’ve all been there!)
  • Travel adapters.
  • PASSPORT.
  • £££- currency and debit cards.
  • Headphones.
  • Travel Insurance (for just incase!)
  • Sun glasses.
  • Playing cards.

Makeup Bits:

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  • Mac Lipsticks: Kinda Sexy (the nude-y colour) and Creme Shene On Hold (more red in tone). Kinda Sexy was the first MAC lipstick I got and I have recently fallen back in love with it- it’s the perfect nude, and On Hold is a subtle colour pop. 
  • Highlight: Goddess of Love, Triple Baked Highlighter. I love all things Makeup Revolution, especially their powders, this highlight is super pigmented and shimmery. 
  • Eyeliner: Collection Fine Stroke Eyeliner. I very rarely switch up my eyeliner, but my other one was running out to the point it was barely visible, so I tried  a new one and it’s really good! 
  • Bare Minerals: Bronzer, Warmth All Over Face Colour. I have been using this for literally YEARS, it may look little, but it lasts a really long time. It’s a super natural bronzed look. 
  • Foundation: Rimmel Lasting Finish 25 hrs. Foundations have been a real nightmare for. I have naturally oily skin and so after a few hours my foundation tends to look cake-y and as if I’m super sweaty (always a great look!). I have tried loads of different foundations and this is the best to date. It’s light on the skin, has SPF 20 and I don’t look like an oily mess by 10 AM in the morning! Highly recommend to anyone with combination to oily skin!
  • Eyebrow pencil: Maybelline New York: Browsation. This is my favourite product to do my brows, I have quite fair hair, so I get the lightest shade! It comes with a sponge and a little pencil on either end. It makes my brows quick and easy to do in the morning.
  • Mascara: Benfit Roller Lash. I LOVE Benefit cosmetics, it’s a little bit more pricey, but so worth it. I have always had quite short and straight eyelashes so I need all the lift and length I can get! 
  • Blusher: Benefit Galifornia. Love, love, love the coral-ly undertones. 
  • Nail varnish: Maybelline New York Down Town Red. Red nail varnish is something I always revert back to, not matter how adventurous I try to be!

 

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Skincare and Hygiene

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Time spent travelling, in the sea, in the snow- you name it- can have a serious effect on your hair and skin. So I like to make sure I cover all bases and pack the essentials.

  • Clarifying Lotion: Clinique: I love this (as you can see by how much is left!) it is a little more pricey, but worth every penny. 
  • Eye Cream: Botanics Radiant Youth Hydrating Eye Cream: This nourishing eye cream helps reduce the appearance of fine lines and dark circles for a more illuminated under-eye appearance. I use it every night before bed and I have noticed how much more moisturised that area of my face feels. 
  • Day Cream: Botanics Radiant Youth Protecting Day Cream: This helps to keep skin looking younger with added UV protection. I put this on about 5 minutes before I do my makeup, so that it soaks in and gives me a moisturised, but not sticky, base to apply my makeup to.
  • Night Cream: Botanics Radiant Youth Replenishing Night Cream: keeps my face fresh, hydrated and also acts as an anti-aging cream (and I am a firm believer that you are never too young to start using these!)

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Smelling good and feeling good is a MUST for city breaks!

  • Fake Tan: Build Me Up Gradual Tan Lotion (Superdrug own brand!): I searched for ages for a tan that was easy to apply… but also cheap (again, hello student budget!) and this tan is super cheap, about £3-£4 and was just as good as the Dove one I had been using. 
  • Perfume: Because It’s You, Emporio Armani: my all time favourite scent.
  • Lip Balm: Body Shop Lip Butter: smells fabby and keeps my lips moisturised. I always make sure to take a lip balm on holiday, there is nothing worse that cracked or sore lips!

hol 2There is always a worry that packing miniature bath products won’t be enough for your holiday. However, from my experience packing miniature, such as shampoos etc, are not just a great way to free up some space, but are also enough for a week away (even if you’re using them twice a day!)

  • Deodorant: Sanex: Sanex is my go-to. 
  • Shampoo: Pantene.
  • Conditioner: Dove.
  • Toothpaste: Oral B.

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So there you have it, I hope you find this post helpful- wherever you are going in the world!

Bee xoxo

 

My Skin Care Story & Botanics Review

My Skin Care Story & Botanics Review

Hello everybody,

As a Botanics Brand Ambassador I get sent some great skin care products and this month I can honestly say I’m more excited about them than I have ever been before!

Before I hop into what products I have received this month, I thought I’d share ‘my skin care story’ with you.

My Skin Care Story

In my early teens my skin got really bad and it was a major insecurity of mine, although I know this isn’t particularly uncommon- it’s one of the sucky parts of being a teenager. But I had lots of spots under the skin and they were beginning to scar.

So after a year or so of trying out different high street products, my Mum and I took a trip down to the Doctors and we were given a cream named Quinoderm. Quinoderm literally stripped my face, it made my (naturally oily combination) skin very dry, itchy and sore. It also did not make my blemishes any easier to conceal… if anything they were even more pronounced on my face. Although, after the initial erosion of my skin, it did clear away my under-the-skin spots. But only for a few months.

My skin quickly became ‘immune’ to Quinoderm… or I assume it did! It just stopped working, and at this point the high street skin care was barely touching my acne. So I was essentially in a worse position than I was before I started using Quinoderm.

My Aunt recommended using something less invasive and more of a long-term solution… but more pricey: Clinique. I can honestly say that Clinique was a huge game changer for me. By 16 I was using Cliniques’ Teenage Skincare Kit that consisted of a foam, a cleanser and a moisturiser. It worked really well on my skin. But it was also far more expensive than I could afford. So it became one of those gifts I got at Christmas or my birthday, or even at airports!

Age 18-20 and a student, I used mostly high street brands and that was great, my skin had calmed down and I was able to get away with using products such as Garnier face scrubs and all things Simple.

But recently my skin has flared up again… and its honestly really knocked my confidence. I’m 21 and I feel like I had my fair share of spots in my teenage years, but now I’m going through it all again. This time I can pin point why I have had this sudden flare up and it is simply from changing from a combination contraceptive pill, to a progesterone only pill… and my face did not like it! Or my back… or my chest... and to make it worse, these spots were scarring again.

So the pill, combined with Final Exams (aka. stress!) made for rather angry looking skin. Which leads me onto Botanics. 

Botanics has acted, for me, in a very similar way that Clinique did a few years ago. It cleared up my face, without drying it out. It’s a long term skin care routine… with a much lower investment!

Plus there are so many different varieties that no matter what skin type you are, Botanics will have one perfect for you. It’s all natural and all from the Botanical Gardens at Kew Palace- which is well worth a visit, if you get the chance!

Botanics UK Products I Received This Month:

All Bright Soothing Eye Makeup Remover- £5.49

This product is really gentle and hydrating for the skin. You have to give it a good shake before putting it on a cotton pad and it practically melts the makeup off of your skin. The Hibiscus in the soothing formula also brightens the area around the eye, which is just another bonus!

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Radiant Youth Hydrating Eye Cream- £11.99

This nourishing eye cream helps reduce the appearance of fine lines and dark circles for a more illuminated under-eye appearance. I use it every night before bed and I have noticed how much more moisturised that area of my face feels. I use concealer under my eyes as part of my everyday makeup and I’m always conscious of drying out my skin, so it feel so good to target this area every night.

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Radiant Youth Protecting Day Cream SPF 15- £9.99

The next two products are face creams… and both of them smell DIVINE. I can’t get over how good it smells. This day cream focusses on  radiance-boosting and is infused with a cocktail of anti-oxidants. It also helps to keep skin looking younger with added UV protection. I put this on about 5 minutes before I do my makeup, so that it soaks in and gives me a moisturised, but not sticky, base to apply my makeup to.

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Radiant Youth Replenishing Night Cream- £9.99

The night cream is similar in consistency to the day cream, and smells equally fantastic! I love having this as a step in my night skin care routine, my face just feels so fresh before bed. It also acts as an anti-aging cream and I am a firm believer that you are never too young to start using these! This cream is infused with a cocktail of antioxidants from the leaves of the Ginkgo plant.

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If you fancy trying these products out, they are available on Botanics UK own website, or through Boots!

Bee xoxo

Just Cucumbers with Anxiety

Just Cucumbers with Anxiety

Hello everybody!

Sometimes we give our bodies a hard time and we need reminding that we are human. 

I don’t think that saying we’re only human’ is a great phrase… because quite frankly humans are pretty damn awesome.

  1. We, as humans, are made up of 95% water. Aka. you’re basically a cucumber…
  2. The human body contains enough fat to make seven bars of soap.
  3. When listening to music, your heart beat will sync with the rhythm.
  4. Stomach acid can dissolve metal. If it touched your skin, it would burn right through it.
  5. Tongue prints are as unique as finger prints.
  6. 50% of your hand strength comes from your pinky finger.

We don’t often think of ourselves as animals, but the reality is: we are. We are bad-ass mammals, with a heap tonne of complex emotions.

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So why do we constantly want to diet (and lose our seven bars worth of soap flubber)?

Why would we want to be the same as someone else when we’re beautifully unique (if in doubt check your tongue out in the mirror!)?

We have acid in our bellies, crazy evolved brains in our heads and power in our pinkies… we are perfectly human the way we are.

I challenge you to: 

  • Curb the comparisons. See your body in a positive light, embrace the flaws. You are perfectly imperfect. Your body gets you up every day, it will carry you through life. Treat it well. Show it some love.
  • Say ‘nuh-uh’ to body-bashing. It’s so easy to sit, often over a coffee, and body shame yourself. Why do we do that?! We do it to seek comfort in body dissatisfaction talk… but it always leaves us feeling worse. Change the topic to something more fulfilling.
  • Be realistic. What is your ‘ideal’ body image and why? I find myself gawking at pictures of super slim, totally beautiful (usually models) on instagram, facebook, magazines, etc and thinking ‘why don’t I look like that?’. Pictures of unattainable bodies fuel our insecurities. Maybe unfollow these magazines on Instagram, or avoid buying magazines you know will leave you feeling less than worthy. If it’s unavoidable call in the ‘motivational speech’ (that takes place in your head!). Ask yourself to have some perspective, how many people in everyday life look like these women? Realistically, these models and public figures that make you feel insecure about yourself, probably have their own insecurities.
  • Accept compliments. Do not brush them off. Doing so is like throwing away medicine and wondering why you still feel sick. Thank them, take the compliment, let it add some pep in your step!
  • Dress your personal best. A trap that I personally fell into, and I know I’m not alone, is keeping clothes in the back of your wardrobe and thinking ‘I’ll save them for when I’m [fill the gap]’. This is such a negative mindset. Maybe they will fit you again, but you can reward yourself when you are there. Keeping them in the name of Thinsperation is toxic. Buy clothes that fit you now, that you feel confident in now. You deserve to feel beautiful the size you are now.

So remember, you are human. Treat your body with the respect it deserves, love it and nourish it. You are beautifully unique.

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Bee xoxo

 

 

 

 

Me: marmite sandwiches, zombies and imperfections.

Me: marmite sandwiches, zombies and imperfections.

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I am Bronwyn. My closest friends and family call me Bee. I have a little scar next to my eye from standing on a chair in nursery, shouting at the top of my lungs for a marmite sandwich and an undying love for foam bananas. I’m terrified of zombies (despite the fact I know they don’t exist). Having worked in a baby shop and children’s nurseries- I know a ridiculous amount about babies without ever having had one (and for some reason I could list off 15 pushchair brands, but struggle to recall what I learnt last week at Uni). I love cats, but fear them equally- for I find them peculiarly unpredictable creatures. I study history because I enjoyed it and it seemed to close the least doors for me in life. I’m an open book, my emotions are splashed across my face the second I feel them, I’m oversensitive, silly 80% of the time, prone to over-apologising and ultimately imperfect, but not insignificant. I am a people person. I like to please. I am working on accepting that not everyone will like me all of the time- and that’s OK. I have been, and still am, vulnerable at times and have found confidence isn’t borne out of things going right, often confidence grows when, quite frankly, the shit hits the fan.

I am a work in progress. I am enough. I belong. I am me: perfectly imperfect.

Remember you are too. Your best is enough. You belong. You are fiercely loved. You are perfectly imperfect.

Dear whoever may need it,

Dear whoever may need it,

Here is a Thursday pick me up!

Dear whoever may need it,

Sometimes things don’t go to plan and they are the opposite of EASY. You’re not the only one having a bad day… or month… or year! You are not alone, it’s the truest thing I can say to you.screen-shot-2018-04-12-at-13-37-40.png

We have all been undone. Then we get put back together, piece by piece and when we find someone else who is suffering we understand deeper and wider. Because we get it.

We all must fight some battles and jump through hoops in this crazy adventure we call life. Some fights, nobody knows about… things change in our lives, sometimes for better or worse.

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Some days can be foggy, and you must realise that it’s OK not to be OK all of the time.

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You will laugh again. So hard that your stomach aches and tears spill out.

You will look back and thank God that you’re on this side of the storm, and then you will thank yourself because it turns out you’re stronger than you realised.

You are loved. You are worthy. You are enough. You are strong. You are good.

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Life will get sunnier.

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DISCLAIMER: The pictures I used are Emily Coxhead’s the creator of the Happy News. She’s awesome and I love her little notes to boost my spirits!

I am a Tutter.

I am a Tutter.

Lately, I’ve been focussing on taking a chill pill. I have become one of those people who get overly frustrated by dawdlers. I end up going to a dark place when walking behind those that should be in, what I would call, the slow-lane of life. I’ve often thought that if I were to become PM, I would enforce a ‘fast lane’/ ‘slow lane’ system.

I’m honestly a good person, like 99% of the time. But there is nothing that fills me with more rage than when somebody starts walking slowly in front of me.

Just to clarify- I don’t get wound up by people who genuinely can’t help that they walk slowly… I’m not a monster. It’s just that there are inconsiderate people who turn me into a tutting ball of rage.

I wondered whether I was the only one that felt this way and found a pretty funny theory from someone else online:

“The secret is to do nothing. Do not adjust your speed. Continue at a constant rate. If collisions occur, then the slow walkers must accept their fate. Like a rock in a river, they will be swept up in the current. . . or be eroded to sand in the riverbed.”

I mean- what?! I’m part nodding with agreement, and giggling with guilt that I know I’m just a speed walker at heart.

Speed walking is one of those things I wish I could put on a CV, it’s a skill of mine. There is a 6 year age gap between my sister and I, so walking to school meant holding onto the buggy. Aka, running alongside the super fast speed-walk of a rushing Mother.

Anyway, this tutting rage that slow walkers force upon us speed walkers. This rage is multiplied when in crowds. There is nothing worse than being in a rush and stuck in a crowd at the same time. Granted, other people need to get places too… but move out the way. If you’re really feeling the rage/ seeing red, you do the totally melodramatic huff as you barge past them. Just in case the tutting wasn’t picked up. Maybe even chuck in a dirty look if they’ve managed to push all your buttons.

But deep down, you know you’ve been a slow walker, a dawdler or just a tourist in your life too. But that’s totally different, because when I dawdle and people barge and tut at me- they just need to chill out, oh my gosh.

Are you a speed walker or a dawdler?

Banishing Easter Guilt

Banishing Easter Guilt

Happy Easter and Happy start of April!

This blog post is all about Easter Guilt.

Over the last week I have seen so many articles focussing on how bad Easter eggs are for you. Ranging from calories to how many burpees you would need to do to burn them off… for real?! Though I am not surprised, it is pretty sad to think that Easter (and the opportunity to eat Easter Eggs) comes round once a year, and we are being told not to enjoy it!? These sort of articles just make people feel bad. Unnecessarily. Because sometimes you need a treat. There are so many of us worrying about our health anyway, these articles are just damaging, not only to our idea of a healthy balanced diet, but to self confidence too. So here are my thoughts on eating Easter Eggs at Easter time!

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Having a healthy balanced diet: I treat myself. Otherwise, quite frankly, I’d go loopy. I have tried diets- and they just make me miserable. A healthy balanced diet means I eat good 80% of the time. In the other 20% I make room for Easter Eggs, the odd glass of wine and a meal out if I choose. Depriving yourself is really bad, deprivation simply leads to binging, which leads to unhappiness. AKA, a vicious cycle, and an unhappy you. I do not claim to be a nutritionist, but if you check any out, they are forever disproving myths surrounding diets. Often they prove that a healthy, balanced diet is the way forward. So as I’m sat here, hell yeah I’m eating an Easter Egg!!

But what about my weight? I have never, ever, stepped off of the scales feeling anything but inadequate. For me standing on the scales is the worst possible thing I could do for my mental health. I could be on a real health kick, for weeks- but the minute I step on those scales, I can lose it all. I automatically go from feeling positive about myself and expecting to see a physical difference, to thinking ‘pass me a chocolate bar, this healthy eating has done sod all for me’. Every time I do the same thing. I get upset, I compare myself to others, I wear baggy clothes for a few days (and binge) and then I give myself a pep talk. Because they really are only numbers. They don’t define me, nor my worth, or my health. I have always been heavier than I expect. But I end up assessing my life in general. Do I eat healthily 80% of the time? Yes. Am I active on a daily basis? Yes. Am I in a positive mindset the majority of the time? Yes. I know I am healthy.

One day will not make me gain weight: Have you ever gone to the gym and lost weight after a day? Nope. So this one day of eating an Easter Egg will not make you gain weight. Think of this as a day off. Granted, one day at the gym gets you one step closer to where you want to be, but these moments of indulgence will not have an impact on the long run. Especially not when mixed with a health diet the majority of the time. If you feel bad, go to the gym an extra time this week or squeeze in an extra 15 minutes work out.

Easter Egg Guilt: We live in a world where people are counting calories left, right and centre, there are apps for it, books for it and DVD’s for it. The celebratory seasons are the worst for it, whether it’s Christmas or Easter (the two biggest seasons of enjoyment), we have calorie counts rammed down our throats. When the reality is: I love skittles and wine. Sometimes I don’t ‘deserve’ them, but quite frankly the idea of ‘working for’ these indulgences is ludicrous. It’s two days a year. Real life has to come first sometimes. I am certainly not prepared to start turning down pudding at the Easter roast dinner, or ask everyone not to bother getting me an Easter Egg this year. Life is for enjoying!

What I am trying to say is, future you isn’t going to think ‘I’m really glad I didn’t eat those Pringles on the 28th February’, it’s all about moderation. If you’re working towards a goal, whether that’s a number, a shape or simply a healthier lifestyle- patience is key. Results don’t happen over night. So allow yourself an Easter treat (or multiple), maybe it will give you that extra reason to stay good for the rest of the week, or work that little bit harder in the gym. In my case, I feel like it simply gives me a boost, my enjoyment this weekend will allow me to have a healthier mindset throughout the rest of the week.

We are entitled to enjoy our food. Life is for living and enjoying. Look after your body and treat it sometimes.

Bee xoxo

March/Spring Makeup Favourites

March/Spring Makeup Favourites

Hello everybody!

Spring has sprung! With every new season I get super excited to change up my beauty products. I have a big box of makeup, but the tippety top ones get put in my makeup bag. Spring, to me, means lighter and brighter colours, and a spring spruce up of beauty products and skincare routine!

So today I thought I would share with you my favourite spring products so far. I will try and keep the pointless chatter to a minimal and run through the products I have been loving this March- and will be using into Spring!

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Clarins Instant Light Natural Lip Perfector, in Petal Shimmer: £18.50. A super soft textured lip gel with a deliciously sweet scent. I really dislike lipglosses that are goo-ey, when it feels like you’re applying slime to your lips! This just feels really natural and give my lips that little plump. Plus, there is very little colour to it, so it’s subtle and perfect for nipping out. I usually wouldn’t spend this sort of money on lipglosses (being a student/cheap skate) but I got this for Christmas and would totally buy it again when it runs out. They do this is several shades too!

Batiste Instant Hair Refresh, in Rose Gold: £1.48.This is one of my ride or die products. I use this almost daily. Recently, I have had SUPER knotty hair, and I have tried everything. When I went to my hairdresser she suggested washing my hair less often (before I was washing it almost every day- yup, bad habit I know!). So I’ve been trying out washing it less frequently and doing more exciting things with my hair to disguise the second/third day hair grease that is totally natural (but still ew). If you fancy checking out some of these hair style click here. Dry shampoo instantly refreshes my hair, banishing my oily roots and gives my hair a makeover without any water. It’s quick, easy and smells divine! My personal favourite is the Rose Gold, or the Cherry. I put it in the night before (anticipating the oily roots in the morning!) so I wake up feeling fresh.

Because It’s You, Emporio Armani: £48-£89. This is by far the most expensive product on my March favourites, buuuut it’s my absolute favourite. I am terrible at describing smells, so I’ll let Armani do it for me: it has notes of raspberry and neroli, rose absolute, vanilla and musk. Trust me, it’s lush. As a student my bank account quivers with the idea of buying this for myself- so I always ask for it for Christmas or grab it in Duty Free! When I was 12, my parents went to New York and came back with the Emporio Armani Diamond. I had been using it up until last Christmas, when I decided to spice life up, and try their newer one. And I am obsessed. I am an Emporio Armani girl for life.

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Botanics All Bright  Radiance Concentrate Serum: £8.99.I work with Botanics and lemme tell you, they are amazing! They constantly impress me with their amazing collections and high quality products. This concentrate serum is fantastic for adding that extra glow to your skin. Though I love the darker shades of Winter makeup, by the time Spring comes I’m itching to have that glowy, golden tint to my forever pale skin. You can buy this from their website here, or at Boots. I highly recommend!

Hollister Solana Beach Travel Mist, in Raspberry Waterlily: £5. A big throwback to school, everybody had one of these bottles in the bags! I still love the smell, it’s a super fresh body mist. Plus the size makes it really easy to carry around if you fancy freshening up.

I Heart Revolution Blushing Hearts Goddess Of Faith: £4.99.This is ridiculous value for money, as it’s huge, lasts ages and is super pigmented. I would own every single one of this collection if I could. This particular colour suits my fair skin tone really well and gives me that extra glow.

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Benefit Roller Lash Mascara: £21.50.This is a super-curling and lifting mascara, aka a roller for lashes! This is one of my all time favourites. As someone who has pretty short, straight eye lashes, I find this makes them look significantly longer and far more volumous. I have it in the Black shade. I also think the product itself is super cute!

Collection Lasting Perfection Concealer: £4.19.Tried this donkeys years ago, and have never gone back! Long lasting concealer, that doubles up as a base for eyeshadow application. I use the shade 1 (and am itching to try their new shade 0) and apply it to any imperfections and blemishes, as well as under my eye, down my nose, on my chin and on my cupids bow to highlight and sculpt my face. Love. It. Plus- £4.19- barrrgaiin.

Botanics All Bright Soothing Eye Makeup Remover: £5.49.This eye make up remover literally melts the makeup off my face! It’s fab. Again, all natural and removed all traces of make-up from around the eye area, while the botanical infused formula soothes. All the ingredients that go into these products are from the Royal Botanical Gardens at Kew Palace. If you haven’t been, I definitely recommend a visit. The gardens are beautiful, especially for a picnic in the spring! Click here to order it from boots!

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GALifornia Powder Blush Travel Size Mini: £12.50. This blush is a mixture of bright pink and with shimmering gold and adds a sun kissed glow to your skin. It’s perfect for spring!

L’Oreal Paris Infallible Lip Paint Matter, in the colour Hollywood Beige: £6.99.This comes in multiple colours, but this is by far my favourite! It’s a soft pinky nude and lasts up to 8 hours. It makes for the most flawless pout and smells delicious.

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Tanya Burr, in Wild Safari and Birthday Cake: £6.99.These are my absolute favourite lipsticks. I have several of the other colours too. They’re so reasonably priced, smooth to apply and hydrating to my lips. Plus, the colours range from nudes to fun colour pop shades. I love the bright coloured lips in Spring, I feel like it can pull an entire outfit together and make a real statement.

MAC Cosmetics Matte Lipstick, in Mehr and Velvet Teddy: £16.50.I often switch between these two, or combine them. Velvet Teddy has a more brown tone to it, and Mehr is more of a raspberry tone. I personally love matte lipsticks as I feel they can double up as sheer lipstick as well, by adding some lipgloss, or even a lip balm on top. MAC lipsticks last such a long time too. Both these colours are subtle, but make my lips look fuller and plumper.

So there you have it, my March favourites, and the makeup I shall be wearing into Spring. I hope you enjoyed reading this!

Bee xoxox

The Cherry on the Cake Theory

The Cherry on the Cake Theory

I am a free, independent woman, who don’t need no man. (This is not to say I don’t very much appreciate my man, but that’s by the by!)

I have always been very set on this. My life is my life. People can add to it, but my life will always remain exactly that- mine.

One of the best, most valuable life lessons that my Mum has taught me, is the Cherry on the Cake Theory.

Metaphorically speaking, the cake is life. In life we should surround ourselves with people we aspire to be like, people that make us happy and (most importantly) people who add to our lives. That make our lives that little bit sunnier. People come and go- and that’s OK. Sometimes it’s really easy to find someone special and fall for them, hard. My Mum has always maintained that this someone should be ‘the cherry on the cake’. They should make life better. But they should not be the cake itself.

My Mum knows a lady who lost her husband at an unfortunately young age. While they were talking she asked her how she managed to cope with it, and the lady responded that she had her own life too. That her husband wasn’t her entire life. He was, naturally, a huge piece. But she kept a piece for herself.

The point is, no matter how happy you are with your partner, it’s so incredibly important to keep your own life too. Keep in touch with your friends, have your own hobbies- have your own life. You’ll have more to talk about, you’ll be happier and you’ll never feel isolated.

I Am An Emotional Sponge

I Am An Emotional Sponge

In a world that is so stressful and highly emotionally charged, it’s easy to take on other people’s problems. Research has even shown that emotions can be contagious, you can potentially ‘catch’ fear, anger and joy from people without even realising it. This is something I know I do. I am very susceptible to ‘catching’ people’s emotions. It’s something I really struggle with.

Are you an emotional sponge?

Being an “emotional sponge” isn’t always a bad thing. Being sensitive towards other peoples emotions, I like to think, can make you a better person.

The question ‘are you OK?’ is majorly underrated. Those three words can make someone go from feeling alone in a situation, to having an outlet. Being sensitive means you observe emotions far more than others. Being an emotional sponge means you probably worry about how someone is feeling perhaps more often than others, and can read situations differently.

Though, sometimes it’s easy to take on too much. I find this incredibly easy to do.

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So, in being aware of my sponginess, I hope to be able to deal with it better and use it to my advantage.  Here are a few ways I have learnt to deal with my tendency to be an emotional sponge.

  • Answer this: is this feeling mine, or someone elses?Sometimes I feel such strong empathy for other people, that it can genuinely dictate my entire day. From the moment I wake up I can find myself concerned for somebody else’s emotions. I often have to put it into harsh terms, with the question: ‘is this any of your business?’Because half the time- it’s not.
  • Recognise the difference between empathy and sympathy.Empathy is where you feel other people’s emotions, whereas sympathy is simply the compassion. If you empathise you’re putting yourself in their position. It’s better for you, and for you to guide other people, when you’re sympathetic, rather than emotional invested.
  • Express yourself.This is something I find so difficult: saying when enough is enough. It’s important to be honest, to say I’m sorry I can’t help you’. When you sit for hours and hours, listening, it is unbelievably easy to be a sponge. This is the one I find the most challenging, because often I feel that to back off can feel like you’re abandoning people.
  • Distance yourself from the suspected source.If you know specific situations or individuals can bring your mood down, and perhaps you’re particularly vulnerable to it at this time, remove yourself from the situation. I find this equally hard, especially as I like to help people and despise seeing people feeling isolated.
  • Talk to other people. If you’re concerned for somebody it’s easy to take on the role of ‘the rock’by yourself. But speaking to other people about it really can help. This keeps your own mental health in check. I always remind myself that I am far more helpful if I, myself, am happy.

I refuse to think of being sensitive as a weakness. To me, it is a strength. But sometimes you have to put number one first and that means taking a step back. I’ve learnt to accept that I am not responsible for others.

This is a personal struggle I am attempting to overcome- I want to be more sympathetic in life and a little less empathetic.